Archive for September, 2011

Stripes with the riding crop

I was very pleased that Jacq came to the party on Saturday night. For a start, she’s an excellent drinking companion, and has proved before her ability to drink me under the table without ever seeming to lose control (she doesn’t even get hangovers – most unfair!). Mostly, it had been a few weeks since I last got my hands on her, and I hoped to make the most of the opportunity.

Still, when there’s all the diversions of a drinking party around you, it can be hard to find the right moment to slip away. There was some flirting, initially. Toppy flirting can be a bit tricky to get the hang of when you’re used to playing the other role, but I’m gradually picking it up. When I made some threat or other – with a grin – and Jacq responded by wordlessly handing me my pint, it was clear that she was encouraging me to overcome my inhibitions and take the initiative.

In the end, things were set in motion by some social anxiety of Jacq’s. She was unable to put a particular worry down, and I playfully suggested that perhaps she just needed distracting. “Yeah, that’d work,” she said, and suddenly I had no choice but to swallow my hesitation and invite her upstairs.

I wanted to introduce her to my two new riding crops, bought for my recent M/M shoot and each fiendish but interestingly different. I’d sampled both of them already, which gave me the confidence to try them on her. The plaited leather one is longer, thicker and heavier; the other is a normal whippy riding crop, slender with a fair amount of spring.

Because I’m mean, I chose that one first, although I knew that like me, she prefers thud to sting. Because I’m nice, I decided that I was only going to give her six, and I was going to let her keep her jeans on.

Because I’m mean, I made them decently hard.

She took them very well, kneeling with bottom nicely presented while she gripped the headboard of my bed. I enjoy her reactions – not a lot of noise and fuss, but some lovely wriggling and grimacing as she processes the pain. As we were on about number four, D knocked on the bedroom door and ended up watching me give the final two.

Afterwards I had the pleasure of seeing her take her jeans down and reveal the results of my labours. The stripes were lovely – as was the confidence boost of knowing I’d judged the strength about right even through her jeans.

I invited D to take over, but he had other ideas… which kept Jacq’s mouth full and left her bottom available to me. I wasn’t complaining. I took the opportunity to distract her in several ways, one of which involved swapping to the heavier crop.

Her bottom was completely bare now, so I was able to admire the stripes arising as I played. I had a lot of fun mixing up lighter and harder strokes to keep her guessing. And sharing smiles with D as we co-ordinated what we were doing to her – adding our own contribution to her reactions the other was eliciting – that was a big rush, too.

Website updates new and old

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The variable publishing pace of porn production takes some getting used to. As a performer, the rate you work at bears little relation to the rate at which you are published. A month in which you do tonnes of shoots might be one in which no websites release any of your work – and vice versa. Scenarios you filmed years ago and have almost forgotten about might suddenly surface; but sometimes photos or videos go up the week after the shoot, far sooner than you expected. And films which you put your whole heart into and are desperate to share with the world might spend years in post-production.

Although I’m not modelling much for other studios at the moment, only for my own site, a lot of work I did in the last few years seems to be appearing lately. Recent website updates have included an interesting mix of new and old shoots…

New: The Rivalry parts 1 and 2 at Spanked in Uniform, in which Amelia and I are both students at the Rockford School of Dance. Part 1 sees rivalry between the cheerleading and ballet schools as we fight over which of us gets to use a practise room. Amelia played a perfectly horrible character in this one, who made the mistake of delivering the line “I’m a ballerina, I can take pain!” just as Coach Johnson pulled her over his knee for a dose of his hard hand.

In Part 2, she’s sent to join the cheerleading squad as a lesson in humility – and we haven’t been working together long before we start fighting again. The Coach gives us both the strap, and confiscates our knickers for the rest of practise. Of course!

Old: Jobhunting at English Spankers. A job interview at an “adult entertainment” bar includes a spanking in order to demonstrate how discipline will be handled at this particular venue. This was the first spanking video I ever filmed, back in July 2006. It was weird to see it cropping up on the blogs again in the last few weeks.

New: Spanked by my roommate Sarah Gregory for plagiarising her college essay (more about this scene here).

Old: A Blushes-style school punishment photoset at Northern Spanking which surprised me when it came out because I had genuinely forgotten about making it. We shot this back in December 2009 on my last shoot with Niki Flynn. I think the photos look lovely, though, really capturing some of that nostalgic, evocative atmosphere from the classic magazines.

New: Another one from Spanked in Uniform, this time in the European Airlines series. For this one Amelia and I decided it might be fun to be punished for doing something genuinely annoying, and used the scenario to vent our frustration with people who hog aeroplane toilets. Imagine how much more irritating having to wait would be if the reason it was in use for twenty minutes was two air hostesses playing with new false eyelashes…

Old: Two more blasts from the past by , this time republished on Spanking Sarah.

These four poster bed spankings were pretty context free (I think it was meant to be a finishing school, but the atmosphere of the scenes is much more adult), but I just loved playing amid the rich colours and textures of the room. And the paddling and caning were both decently hard, too – I asked for the caning in particular to be quite firm, and I remember having some nice marks after this shoot.

Storing emotions in the body

A little while ago some friends of mine were talking about their experiences during yoga classes. One asked if she was the only one to experience panic and anxiety during savasana (corpse pose, a relaxation position). It turned out she wasn’t, and several people added their own experiences of uncontrollable weeping or a surging of emotion while doing poses which were billed as “relaxing”.

Shortly after her boyfriend’s death, Amanda Coggin, a San Francisco-based writer, was in a small, intimate yoga class. While in the class, she listened to the teacher, who encouraged the participants to breathe deeply and try to clear their minds. As Amanda positioned herself in an asana, she felt an immense release. Suddenly, she said, “the tears just came.”

Unlike the emotional anxiety and knot-in-throat we normally feel before a big cry, Amanda said these tears were different; they felt more like a letting go than a working up. (Working out emotions, one muscle at a time)

I think the idea of “storing emotions in the body”, leading to an emotional release during physical relaxation of tensed muscles, comes from Alexander Technique, but it’ll be familiar to anyone who’s experienced emotional catharsis from spanking play, or who’s used spanking therapeutically. And we’re all familiar with the idea of using a work-out to release pent-up stress or tension.

I’ve had a similar – but not identical – experience during deep tissue massages and physiotherapy. Without feeling consciously upset, anxious or sorrowful in any way, the physical pressure can sometimes cause me to sob helplessly. I’m talking big, heaving gut crying that makes your throat ache and leaves you feeling emptied; sort of like the emotional equivalent of being sick. The masseurs and physiotherapists that have treated me have never been surprised by this. Apparently, it’s a common reaction. The body tenses and knots muscles in response to stress and anxiety. Even once you put those stresses out of your mind and focus on other things, the physical tensions remain. It can take physical stimulation to unknot them – and when you do, it’s as if all the pent-up emotions are released and need to be expressed.

I don’t know to what extent it’s a chemical phenomenon – are certain hormones or substances trapped in areas of the body and then affect your emotional state when they’re released? – or whether it’s more psychological. But it seems to me that it can’t be very different from using spanking to make you more vulnerable and receptive to held-back emotions, triggering tears which you might have been keeping a tight lid on for days.

It seems that this is a fairly common stage in the relaxation process. But it’s very little talked about by yoga and meditation teachers, who often speak as if they expected everyone to transition from tense to relaxed without experiencing any fear, anxiety, or expression of pent-up emotion in the process. Perhaps those who teach and write about relaxation could learn a thing or two from spanking.

Perhaps we don’t quite store emotions in our bottoms, exactly … but I think there are more similarities between spanking, yoga, massage therapy and other relaxation techniques than many practitioners might be prepared to admit.

Schoolboys and aristocrats

I'd put a casting call up on my blog, but disappointingly, my inbox was not instantly flooded with requests for work from bright young things willing to shoot M/M spanking scenes. I received lots of emails from willing chaps over 40 who wanted to bottom to women, but lovely as I'm sure they were, none of them was really suitable for the scenes I had in mind.

In the end it was Twitter that solved my problem. I posted to the effect that I was looking for kinky young men willing to bottom on camera for CP films, and that I was offering competitive rates of pay, creative input and good times. Someone on my feed put me in touch with a friend of theirs. He didn't have a website, but he did have a link to a fetlife profile. I took one look at his photo gallery and was sold.

Ladies and gentlemen, I'd like to introduce you to Dreams of Spanking's newest star, Sebastian Hawley:

Sebastian switches, but was mostly interested in new encounters as a bottom, and had experience at modelling and acting. He's into deep D/S and service. Plus, look at that beautiful inkwork. I had to shoot him. All I needed now was someone to top.

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Kinky Merit Badge: caning

Tonight, I am the proud recipient of:

39 whacks of the bathbrush (not terribly proud of that)
100 strokes of the cane (5 different canes, from junior schoolroom to Master)
20 strokes of the cane on my nipples (owwwww)
30 strokes of the razor strop (because I asked for them)

and…

The whole thing was captured on film. My bottom is throbbing dreadfully. I am very happy :)

Recommended spankings

I didn’t have time to do a proper hyperkinks post at the weekend, but I did want to show you a couple of spanking links recently that caught my eye and turned me on.

The Intruder

The Villain and Erica Scott collaborated to produce this free spanking video. It shows us what happens when a creepy intruder enters Erica’s flat. She fears the worst – and she’s not sure whether to be relieved or more freaked out when she finds out that he just wants to spank her. V puts on an extremely effective creepy performance, and Erica takes one hell of a spanking with a wooden hairbrush..

You can view the film on Google, and I highly recommend doing so. it was too large a file to be hosted in full on SpankingTube, although they did upload a trailer:.

Giselle and Tommy.

I really liked these F/M domestic discipline photos of Giselle spanking Tommy over the knee with a mahogany paddle, from the Spanking360 blog. Cute couple, and very effective spanking!.

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Rear Window.

This afternoon I got hot and bothered after reading Quai Discipline’s short story Rear Window. It’s an edgy domestic discipline scenario, and it pushed a lot of my buttons..

The sound of a car pulling into the driveway made Chelsea startle. They were arriving for the event. As the doorbell rang, her mother came into her room.

“Chelsea, they’re here. Your father will be spanking you first and then I’ll give you the second half,” her mom said.

Chelsea gulped and asked her mother, “How many?”

“You know the rules. It’s double the last time,” came the answer.

“But that’s…”

“A hundred twenty-eight. Yes. Sixty-four from him and then sixty-four from me,” her mom continued. “I see them out back now. Come over here and bend over the desk. Are we going to need to tie you down?” She eyed her daughter suspiciously.

School uniform

Finally, here’s mum and dad in a very different context in this super-cute cartoon by Dave Wolfe. I particularly liked dad’s sexy professor outfit with tweed, bowtie and glasses! He could put me over his knee any day.

(via the Cherry Red Report)

BDSM in the UK: spanking, the media and the law

Here is the text and video recording of my talk at German fetish advocacy conference BDSMtag. Many thanks to Ludwig for asking the interview questions and providing many interesting conversations about BDSM, society and politics over the course of the weekend.

The first minute and a half of the video is Ludwig’s introduction to the German speaking audience, but the rest of the video is in English.

For those who prefer a written version, here are my notes in full. (This is the text I produced while preparing the talk, not a transcript of the video, so there are some discrepancies between the two.)

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Review: Amelia’s Sunday Spanking

When I first heard that the Restrained Elegance team had launched a separate studio for ambitious, feature-length spanking and bondage films, I wrote an excited post to let you all know. I was particularly keen to see their first and only spanking movie. In my opinion their production values, photography and cinematography are the best you’ll see in our BDSM niche, and while respecting Hywel’s preferred genre, I’ve always been somewhat disappointed that they were using their powers for evil bondage, rather than the hard corporal punishment scenarios that get me really hot.

Well, I’ve been lucky enough to end up with a review copy, and on Wednesday Tom and I sat down to watch it. (NB. Neither Restrained Elegance nor Elegance Studios has an affiliates scheme, and I have no financial interest in this project.)

Vital statistics

Title: Amelia’s Sunday Spanking
Stars: Amelia Jane Rutherford and Hywel Phillips (who also collaboratively wrote, produced, crewed and directed it!)
Running time: 1 hour 8 minutes
Price: €32.90 (as mp4 download or burnable PAL DVD)
Implements: hand, hairbrush, heavy leather strap, light cane, multi-tailed tawse, heavy cane.
Theme: Real punishment, domestic discipline

This is a genuine domestic discipline movie, by a real couple who haven’t really portrayed domestic discipline on film before. Hywel doesn’t have much opportunity to focus on spanking during the normal course of his work on Restrained Elegance. Amelia is one of the most skilful actors in the whole industry, and is far more usually to be seen playing a part than being her day-to-day self with her real life BDM (“boyfriend/dom/master”).

The format is four weekly discipline encounters, each one taking place on a Sunday to deal with the misdemeanours accumulated during the week. This results in an hour long movie in which each punishment takes place on Amelia’s unmarked bottom – a novel way around the problems usually arising from shooting a spanking feature on location over one or two consecutive days.

The style is candid, with Hywel occasionally nipping off camera to correct shot angles/focus/other technical wizardry. At once point in the second scene, some technical error or other results in a minute of downtime, during which rolling text apologises for the fault, telling us that while Hywel was getting things up and running again, “meanwhile, Amelia’s mind wanders and wanders…”

In some ways this sums up the emotional landscape of the film. Hywel has a very steady, unflappable personality. He is incredibly clever, hardworking, and although he’s a dominant and sadist, he’s fundamentally a calm and gentle person. By contrast (and contrary to the persona she plays in many spanking films), Amelia is up-tempo, highly distractable, somewhat giddy and fluffy, and ever so perceptive, empathic and tactful. It’s quite rare to see either of them spend this much time on camera without putting on a persona, and the dynamic which arises between them is delightful to watch. Where Amelia chatters, negotiates and giggles, with an artless charm which would have many a top wrapped around her little finger, Hywel is steadfast, a solid rock around which her butterfly dances. He is not without a twinkle in his eye, and a lot of the dialogue in this film will have you giggling along with Amelia – and Hywel can hardly be said to keep a straight face throughout. But the sense of humour in their interaction by no means weakens the intensity of their D/S dynamic, and even as Hywel is grinning at the ridiculous, he stands firm and successfully imposes his will.

The premise of the film is centred around the idea of a punishment book, in which Amelia must write down the things she does wrong during the week. Some of these are drawn from existing household rules (under the structure of their D/S relationship, she is obliged to ask permission before entering his study or putting her shoes on, and to keep her feet well moisturised – Hywel has a bit of a foot thing, as anyone familiar with Restrained Elegance will know); others are identified by Hywel on the spot. The latter category result in some hilariously unexpected misdeeds. My favourites included:

  • “Failing to welcome Hywel home properly and speaking in a silly voice”
  • “Claiming to have a PhD while making fudge”
  • “Hitting a light with a cardboard tube while pretending to be Mr. Punch.”

In addition, every misbehaviour which arises during the punishment itself is, of course, written in the book – and Amelia spends a fair amount of time adding things to next week’s list, a process which becomes somewhat recursive as “Petulant behaviour while writing in the punishment book” becomes something for which she is punished. One of the most amusing moments in the film is when she accidentally, forgetting to put the pen down, scribbles on the sofa while being spanked. It’s even funnier when she manages to do it again in the second scene, and Hywel’s amusement and her (admittedly somewhat amused) horror are brilliant to watch.

Scene 1 consists of an over the knee hairbrush spanking, during which Amelia is obliged to read out the contents of the book to date (and adds no few items to the list). This includes some hand spanking after the cold – and evidently painful – hairbrush spanking, and concludes with an unexpectedly intense session with the leather strap (18 strokes, I think, but don’t quote me on that). The strapping was hard, clearly very difficult for Amelia (I felt ever so sorry for her!) and very hot, but I’m afraid for me the appeal was lessened by several extended slow-motion sequences, which were particularly disruptive as they were accompanied by slowed down, lower-pitch sound. I don’t know if this was a deliberate choice or a necessary means of covering some technical glitch, but I found it jarring. Thankfully the device wasn’t re-used in any of the later scenes.

After the strapping Hywel, exuding coldness, leaves Amelia for 5 minutes time out, facedown on the sofa with her red bottom on display and instructions not to remove her hands from her head. There follows a wonderfully intimate interlude during which Amelia confides in the camera about how she’s feeling, including the sudden realisation that perhaps she’s not meant to be talking to the camera, how much harder it is being spanked on film without the protection of a character to hide behind, and how much she wants to rub her bottom.

Scene 2 begins with Amelia being “woken up” late on Sunday morning – the first obviously staged moment in the film. There follows an over the knee hand spanking and a caning, during which Amelia is obliged to maintain a difficult all-fours position with her bottom thrust out and vulnerable. The hand spanking includes one of my favourite lines of the film, as Amelia, pinned over the knee and being soundly spanked, wails “Ouuuuch! Ow! Hywel! Ohhhh, I wish your name didn’t sound so much like ‘ow’!”

Scene 3 opens with Amelia bringing in a teapot, and Hywel reminding her that today is Sunday, and she knows what that means. Again, while this is clearly staged – Amelia must surely have known they were about to start filming, in order to do her hair/makeup if nothing else – it’s charming, and gels well with the other genuinely candid aspects of the film.

(Amelia: Can’t I at least have my tea first?
Hywel: No, of course you can’t!

Unspeakable tyranny!)

The following scene is, in my opinion, the strongest in the film. The dialogue is highly entertaining, with some hilarious misdeeds and a number of rather brazen negotiation attempts. Amelia is sentenced to a hundred strokes with the strap (“I’m not saying ‘Thankyou, sir’ one hundred times!”), the first ten over her jeans and the rest on the bare. Over the course of the punishment she gradually stops resisting and her submission becomes more sincere. She looks stunningly beautiful throughout, and it clearly genuinely hurts. At one point Hywel threatens to use his belt if she doesn’t behave better, and I endured a few minutes of disappointment that this hadn’t, in fact, taken place before he did indeed stop, put the strap down, draw his belt through his belt loops and continue the punishment with the heavier, thuddier leather belt. Genuine hotness.

At the end of the strapping/belting Amelia pledges to do better, and to maintain a clean slate throughout the final week. Scene 4 is the consequence of her failing to do so at the last hurdle, and is an intense bedroom caning in which the ever-mobile Amelia is penalised an extra stroke every time she breaks position. Finally, she loses her giddy edge, stops talking back, and the result is an intense discipline scenario with serious emotional impact.

Who won’t like this film: People who want to see severe CP that leaves dark welts and bruises; anyone who prefers discipline scenarios which are wholly embedded in fantasy, rather than candid. This is also probably not a film to watch if you have recently ended a relationship, are still looking for a discipline partner, or otherwise have a sore spot when it comes to watching loving kinky intimacy.

Who will like this film: CP enthusiasts with a sense of humour, fans of AJR (who isn’t?) who want to get to know her a little better, anyone who wants to watch genuine domestic discipline, dominance and submission, and unrehearsed scenarios with sparkling chemistry and intimacy.

I’d particularly recommend this as a film for couples to watch to get them in the mood to play. While it wasn’t quite brutal enough to make me helplessly aroused (I always find it a bit tricky to react this way to things starring people I know, anyway), it certainly put me in the mood for a spanking and made me hungry for a D/S session with my lover. Anyone who likes their spanking hard, real and with high production values will find something to enjoy in this excellent first production from an exciting new studio.

Female gaze, spankee gaze

Well, the name and URL of my forthcoming spanking site has now been released into the wild, and the pre-launch page is open to the public. I've been thrilled by the positive response so far. Thanks so much to all who have signed up to our mailing list, followed us on twitter, left positive comments on photos and written emails. It's been great to see others sharing my excitement about this project. Thanks also to those who have sent constructive criticism and feedback which has enabled us to improve aspects of the site, especially our introductory text on the homepage.

I've wanted to post these vintage photo montages since I first saw them on Chross' blog, but they fit the Dreams of Spanking idea so perfectly I've been holding off until the URL was made public. Check these out:

      

Aren't they wonderful? I love the facial expressions of the daydreamer, and the contrast between her lustful body language on the bench, and her submissive postures in the daydream. I'm seriously tempted to recreate this series as a full photoset for Dreams of Spanking :)

But the most exciting thing about these images, to me, is that they represent an early example of female gaze spanking erotica. Not only female gaze, in fact – but spankee gaze.

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The dreamer of dreams

I have a secret to share with you.

Pandora Blake dreams of spanking... do you?

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