Upheavals

Posted at 22:19 on 1 Oct 2011 by Pandora / Blake

Tags: D, featured photos, kink, Photos, Thomas Cameron

The bad: Ten days ago, Tom and I found ourselves suddenly, but not entirely unexpectedly, in the position of needing to move house within the week. We'd known this might be coming as his job security had been uncertain for some time, but the timing, when it happened, was very sudden. We dropped everything to spend five days packing our lives into boxes and arranging the necessaries to be mobile for a while.

I'm not currently earning, since I'm working fulltime on preparations for the launch of my site. And Tom needs a few weeks off to recover from the stresses of the last year before moving onto the next stage. So we're both presuming on the generosity of friends for a while, and our collective stuff is packed into a storage container until we sort out something more permanent.

The good: D has generously allowed me to move in with him for the time being - a step we hadn't thought to take before, but since he's working with me behind the scenes on the technical side of the site launch, the timing makes sense. And there are other benefits, too. One hardworking boy without any other current romantic entanglements + one horny wench + both our toyboxes and my entire collection of high heels = enough kinky sex to satisfy even us, at least once we recovered from the exhaustion of the move. We aren't sick of each other's company yet, either, which is an entirely pleasant surprise. I'll let you know how it goes, but so far it augurs well.

The bad: I'm not living with Tom any more. More than his job, more than the south coast town that's been our home for the last year, more than anything else, this is what I've grieved for most these last two weeks. We took a while to shake it down but the last few months we've found a real rhythm, and it's been a joy making a home with him. We will do so again, as soon as things are more settled, but in the meantime I am going to miss him like crazy.

The good: I'm back in London, several years sooner than I expected to be (actually I wasn't sure if I'd ever be a Londoner again) and realising with a rush of emotion how much I still love this city. The timing has been perfect, with the most glorious Indian summer October ever saw, and it's been a week of boiling blue afternoons, balmy evenings and sunny walks along the canal. I'd missed being able to buy foods from around the world; missed that uplifting hum of human energy as you step out into the street and feel the city expanding around you. It's good to be back, and it's good to be surprised by how true that's turned out to be.

The bad: All of this time and money and energy spent on moving has set back the launch of my site by a week or so. Nothing to be done about it, but frustrating nonetheless.

The good: Still, my computer is set up, I'm online and back on track, so a launch in December this year is still very much on the cards.

Overall, the good outweighs the bad. D and I visited the London Alternative Market today and picked up some exciting new toys. I'm much closer to my London friends again, including Jacq, who may not agree that the new toys are a good thing. And Tom stopped by for a visit today to reassure me that absence makes the heart grow fonder, leaving me glowing in more ways than one.

I'll tell you in more detail about some of the deviance of the last few days in a separate post, but for now I'll leave you with a few pictures from a playdate with Tom a few weeks ago, because he's just left them with me and I rather like them.

I think these were taken after some extended handspanking, a session with my new spear-headed thick leather strap, and a number of strokes of the cane (at least eighteen - probably more).

It's been a ridiculously hard couple of weeks, and the next couple of months are going to involve an awful lot of work. But hooray for polyamory, which has given me a support network with better back ups than a RAID array. Hooray for landing on our feet, and hope for the future. And hooray for the opportunity to indulge in kink day-by-day, and above all for my good fortune in love.

Comments

Sorry to hear about the upheaval, but glad that you're coming out of it okay. Also glad that you've got a good support network.

I must say, "a support network with better back ups than a RAID array" made me giggle, and also is rather hot. You have NO idea how much of a turn-on it is to find that a beautiful, intelligent, kinky woman like yourself is also a huge geek. :-)

But of course! Glad to know your appreciated the reference :D

Thankyou lovely, that's ever so sweet of you. I expect it'll take a little longer before I'm properly settled due to how things work out with Tom's and my living arrangements, but in the meantime there should be some fun London adventures. :) xx

Aye, it is sad, but we saw it coming from some way off. It was a brave go, anyway :)

A double edged sword is better than no sword at all... or something. ;) Seriously, being at D's is no bad thing for me right now and it's lovely to be back in London. Thanks for the good wishes :)

Thanks Bryan, I hope you're right! Things do seem to be working out a lot better than they might be :)

Goodness, what a lovely offer! Sorry it's taken me a while to get back to you, I haven't been quite sure what to say :)

Your support and goodwill is ever so heartening and very much appreciated - thankyou so much. Part of me wants you ask you to hang on to your money for now and, if you would really like to support me, join Dreams of Spanking in December. I think I would prefer that to a donation now. But if you would like to insist, you can send something to info@pandoras-bot.com via paypal.

I'm blushing now - with the wrong set of cheeks, as TEn Amorette would say! Thanks so much :)

Oh, bless you lovely :) It's been lovely getting to know you better via twitter lately - and I continue to enjoy your writing! Thanks for your ongoing positivity and support, it makes me feel all embarrassed and grateful :)

Ooh, heavens Pandora, what a horrible drama :( I'm so sorry and really glad there are some good bits as a result of the awful bits. I really hope that this time next year you're in a lovely permanent state of settledness/happiness and that this period of crazy will seem long ago xxx

Thankyou lovely, that's ever so sweet of you. I expect it'll take a little longer before I'm properly settled due to how things work out with Tom's and my living arrangements, but in the meantime there should be some fun London adventures. :) xx

Aye, it is sad, but we saw it coming from some way off. It was a brave go, anyway :)

A double edged sword is better than no sword at all... or something. ;) Seriously, being at D's is no bad thing for me right now and it's lovely to be back in London. Thanks for the good wishes :)

Thanks Bryan, I hope you're right! Things do seem to be working out a lot better than they might be :)

Goodness, what a lovely offer! Sorry it's taken me a while to get back to you, I haven't been quite sure what to say :)

Your support and goodwill is ever so heartening and very much appreciated - thankyou so much. Part of me wants you ask you to hang on to your money for now and, if you would really like to support me, join Dreams of Spanking in December. I think I would prefer that to a donation now. But if you would like to insist, you can send something to info@pandoras-bot.com via paypal.

I'm blushing now - with the wrong set of cheeks, as TEn Amorette would say! Thanks so much :)

Oh, bless you lovely :) It's been lovely getting to know you better via twitter lately - and I continue to enjoy your writing! Thanks for your ongoing positivity and support, it makes me feel all embarrassed and grateful :)

Really sorry to hear that you and Tom have lost your home and business, especially given all the time, energy and love you've put into it over the past year. What a shame. Typical of you to be looking on the bright side, though.

Best of luck.

Aye, it is sad, but we saw it coming from some way off. It was a brave go, anyway :)

A double edged sword is better than no sword at all... or something. ;) Seriously, being at D's is no bad thing for me right now and it's lovely to be back in London. Thanks for the good wishes :)

Thanks Bryan, I hope you're right! Things do seem to be working out a lot better than they might be :)

Goodness, what a lovely offer! Sorry it's taken me a while to get back to you, I haven't been quite sure what to say :)

Your support and goodwill is ever so heartening and very much appreciated - thankyou so much. Part of me wants you ask you to hang on to your money for now and, if you would really like to support me, join Dreams of Spanking in December. I think I would prefer that to a donation now. But if you would like to insist, you can send something to info@pandoras-bot.com via paypal.

I'm blushing now - with the wrong set of cheeks, as TEn Amorette would say! Thanks so much :)

Oh, bless you lovely :) It's been lovely getting to know you better via twitter lately - and I continue to enjoy your writing! Thanks for your ongoing positivity and support, it makes me feel all embarrassed and grateful :)

Many things in life are a double edged sword, as this post proves. I do hope that the future holds more and more of the good and less and less of the bad. Good luck to all of you and I hope everything works out in the end.

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A double edged sword is better than no sword at all... or something. ;) Seriously, being at D's is no bad thing for me right now and it's lovely to be back in London. Thanks for the good wishes :)

Thanks Bryan, I hope you're right! Things do seem to be working out a lot better than they might be :)

Goodness, what a lovely offer! Sorry it's taken me a while to get back to you, I haven't been quite sure what to say :)

Your support and goodwill is ever so heartening and very much appreciated - thankyou so much. Part of me wants you ask you to hang on to your money for now and, if you would really like to support me, join Dreams of Spanking in December. I think I would prefer that to a donation now. But if you would like to insist, you can send something to info@pandoras-bot.com via paypal.

I'm blushing now - with the wrong set of cheeks, as TEn Amorette would say! Thanks so much :)

Oh, bless you lovely :) It's been lovely getting to know you better via twitter lately - and I continue to enjoy your writing! Thanks for your ongoing positivity and support, it makes me feel all embarrassed and grateful :)

Lady,

You will come out of this better than ever in life...You do think in a very positive way and I'm glad you do.....The Best lady......


Bryan

Thanks Bryan, I hope you're right! Things do seem to be working out a lot better than they might be :)

Goodness, what a lovely offer! Sorry it's taken me a while to get back to you, I haven't been quite sure what to say :)

Your support and goodwill is ever so heartening and very much appreciated - thankyou so much. Part of me wants you ask you to hang on to your money for now and, if you would really like to support me, join Dreams of Spanking in December. I think I would prefer that to a donation now. But if you would like to insist, you can send something to info@pandoras-bot.com via paypal.

I'm blushing now - with the wrong set of cheeks, as TEn Amorette would say! Thanks so much :)

Oh, bless you lovely :) It's been lovely getting to know you better via twitter lately - and I continue to enjoy your writing! Thanks for your ongoing positivity and support, it makes me feel all embarrassed and grateful :)

hi
I support your politics and admire your writing and intelligence. I want to make donations to support your work - how can I?

Goodness, what a lovely offer! Sorry it's taken me a while to get back to you, I haven't been quite sure what to say :)

Your support and goodwill is ever so heartening and very much appreciated - thankyou so much. Part of me wants you ask you to hang on to your money for now and, if you would really like to support me, join Dreams of Spanking in December. I think I would prefer that to a donation now. But if you would like to insist, you can send something to info@pandoras-bot.com via paypal.

I'm blushing now - with the wrong set of cheeks, as TEn Amorette would say! Thanks so much :)

Oh, bless you lovely :) It's been lovely getting to know you better via twitter lately - and I continue to enjoy your writing! Thanks for your ongoing positivity and support, it makes me feel all embarrassed and grateful :)

Although I hate your having had to deal with so much trauma, it's good to read that there are good things, and more good things to come. Your spirit really shines through.

And seeing all of the supportive responses, I'm heartened to know that you've got others out here who love you like I do.

All the best to you,
Quai

Oh, bless you lovely :) It's been lovely getting to know you better via twitter lately - and I continue to enjoy your writing! Thanks for your ongoing positivity and support, it makes me feel all embarrassed and grateful :)

I didn't have much internet time in the recent months, so I only saw this post very recently while trying to catch up. I'm very sorry to hear about all the chaos, Pandora, but it's good to know that Tom and you found a way to handle it and that D helps you as well. I so hope that Tom has had time to recover during the last month and is now again fit enough for new challenges!

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