Versatile bloggers

Posted at 22:57 on 2 Dec 2011 by Pandora / Blake

Tags: Blogging

I'm having a cranky, doom-mongering, post-viral, pre-menstrual, oh-god-my-website-might-not-launch-before-Christmas sort of day. So right now, I'll take any little spark of positivity I can get. Even silly blog meme positivity. Why not be arbitrarily nice to each other at this rubbish time of year? Better than being arbitrarily horrible, right?

Anyway, when Fred listed my blogs not once, but twice in his Versatile blogger award post, it brought a smile to my cold-ridden little face. Apparently I'm a "very clever lady" and Dreams of Spanking is "going to be the next big thing in spanking porn". Whee! Well, that's sorted then. No more worrying for me! ;)

Having been given a smile by this small act of kindness by a fellow blogger, the least I can do is pass it on. Thanks Fred for the compliments, your faith in me and your good wishes. I'll try to live up to them!

Now, according to the rules of this little compliment-a-thon, I have to: share seven things about myself; pass this award along to 15 blogs I enjoy reading; and contact my chosen bloggers to let them know about the award.

Here goes, then! Seven things you probably didn't know about me:

1. I went to the gym today even though I'm still suffering from a cold, and felt like a total hero, but I've been wiped out and useless since I got back, so maybe it wasn't a great idea. 2. My large, fluffy, heavy calico cat is currently sitting on my shins. 3. I'm completely obsessed with the BBC 'Frozen Planet' series and am watching every new episode on iPlayer as soon as it comes out. Penguins! Polar bears! Ice caves! Frozen waterfalls! Aurora Borealis! Fucking brine-icles! Trust me, it's astounding. 4. I'm really nervous about Christmas this year because I'm completely skint and don't know how I'm going to manage gifts. Ideas for low-cost, crafty, creative presents appreciated. 5. I haven't used shampoo or conditioner for two years. I wash my hair in bicarbonate of soda and apple cider vinegar every 7-10 days, and do water washes inbetween. My fine, grease-prone hair is the shiniest and healthiest it's ever been - plus it's cheaper, and better for the environment, too. 6. I mostly read sci-fi and fantasy novels, but I have zero patience for sexism in books at the moment, so I'm immersing myself in books by female/feminist authors. Bonus is that they also tend to be sex-positive and interested in intercultural stuff, as well as having, you know, useful characters who are actually female. Recommendations: Tanya Huff, Elizabeth Moon, Charles de Lint, Mercedes Lackey, Charles Stross, Cory Doctorow. 7. Since moving in with D I haven't suffered from insomnia at all - for the first time in my life. I think he generates a sleep field of some kind. I wish I could bottle it and carry it with me forever.

Right, enough of that. Onto the people I think are awesome. In no particular order, these are the bloggers I think are versatile, fabulous, and whose new posts light up my feed:

  1. Erica Scott of Life, Love and Spanking. A refreshingly honest, sharp, down-to-earth blog from a legend among spanking models. Erica's a great storyteller, she pulls no punches and has the sharpest wit in the business.
  2. Adele Haze of Spanking Model Speaks. Funny, direct, fearlessly political, with an enviably succinct turn of phrase, this was the first blog I ever read by a spanking model. It's gone quiet right now, but twitter has rumours of a relaunch - I'm waiting with bated breath.
  3. Indy of Not So Submissive. Fresh political writing, warm, empathic scene reports and incisive kinky analysis.
  4. Quai of Spanking Discussion. Original, neatly turned spanking stories with interesting psychological twists which are practically guaranteed to get me wet.
  5. Mija of El Tercer Ojo. Challenging, honest writing about kink, punishment, mental health and real life. Hauntingly powerful fiction, too.
  6. Zille Defeu of Zille's Fetish Fantasies. A talented lady with many strings to her bow; a kinky porn pioneer; positive and generous, always finding the best in things. Zille feels like a kindred spirit in the way she approaches her personal kink; I can only hope to walk in her footsteps when it comes to the professional stuff.
  7. Holly of the Pervocracy. This is one of the must-read blogs on kink, sex and feminism, and her ruthless mocking of Cosmo magazine always makes me cackle.
  8. Ludwig and Kaelah of the Rohrstock Palast. Warm, gentle, always thoughtful and seeking out truth, I love reading this couple's explorations of kink.
  9. Ariel Anderssen/Amelia Jane Rutherford. Talented, graceful and ever diplomatic, Ariel has lots of skills I have yet to learn, but I think the biggest blog-related ones are her lightness of touch, and the way she always seems to know exactly how seriously to take things.
  10. MayMay of Maybe Maimed and Male Submission Art. Sometimes unsympathetic; usually right. Do not read unless you want your head to be blown wide open with the realisation of how fucked up society is. Yes, even the kinky bits. In some ways, especially the kinky bits.
  11. Maggie Mayhem: playful, radical, this lady knows what's important in life. Whether she's working as a sex educator, fucking on camera or hiking in the woods, I reckon she has her priorities in order.
  12. Kitty Stryker. A kinky, curvy entirely awesome sex worker and educator who isn't afraid to call people on their shit.
  13. Dave of Spanking4Men and the Cherry Red Report. Has a keen eye for the hot and spankable - and stands out as a rare male blogger who doesn't exclude on gender lines. As long as it's cherry red, it's all good with him - and I wholeheartedly agree!
  14. Paul at North Gare. Doesn't post often, but every one's a gem. Original, critical thinking on the psychology and politics of kink and kinky social systems. One of the very few male tops I know who's unashamed of having the occasional switchy leaning, and not afraid to talk about it.
  15. Last but not least, Audrey Knight, a lady with a strong spanking arm and excellent taste in men and women. Can't wait for the launch of her genre-busting new site Spanking360.

Right. Bedtime, and hoping tomorrow will seem brighter. Spread the love.

Comments

Congrats on the award and thanks for sharing these blogs. I'm always looking for new ones to read.

You're welcome! I'm sure you'll find something to enjoy, they're all fantastic writers and I always look forward to their posts.

I actually love the gift-giving aspect of Christmas and it's a big tradition in my family. They won't mind if I don't spend much money but I will feel bad if I can't come up with something appropriate. It's tough to come up with a thoughtful present when you're short on both money AND time...

Cheers Tim! Have you seen the preview site for my forthcoming spanking site Dreams of Spanking yet? If you like my work, you might be interested: http://dreamsofspanking.com :)

Ah, brilliant to meet another fan of good sci-fi/fantasy/speculative fiction. I haven't read any of Kage Baker's work but I do know how awesome Charlie Stross is. It's one of my ambitions to get him and Tom together in a pub one day; they remind me of each other rather a lot. Actually Dreams of Spanking includes a clip loosely inspired by the Laundry novels, and I'm still working up the courage to email CS and let him know!

James Tiptree Jnr is also a new name for me - thanks ever so much for the recommendations, I'll be sure to check them out :)

So lovely of you. I feel like our blogs aren't really comparable though because I just ramble about real life and most of your posts are actual pieces of fiction. It seems like a much more impressive endeavour!

Oh, there was a question I was meaning to ask you. Most of your stories are about punishments of a similar severity level with similar implements, albeit in very different psychological contexts. I absolutely love the pitch most of your punishments are set at, physically, which is why your work appeals to me so much. But I was meaning to ask, since I expect not all your real life play takes that shape, do you fantasise about other implements/severity levels - about short sharp punishments, or hand spanking? (Nothing wrong at all if you don't - favourite fantasies don't represent the sum of our tastes and my own top fantasies aren't terribly varied - but I'm very interested in how other people's kink works!)

You're very welcome! I'm glad you had fun with it :)

Yes, much better thankyou Kaelah :) Glad you enjoyed this meme!

Oooh, fudge is a great idea. I could make pretty boxes for it as well... good thinking! Yes please, I would love to have your recipe if it's not too much trouble :)

It was totally worth doing just go get the lowdown on how to wash my hair.
So pleased I made you smile.
Take my advice for Christmas and do as I do. I ignore it almost completely save for two gifts to my niece and nephew and cards to my siblings!
Bah Humbug!

Fred

I actually love the gift-giving aspect of Christmas and it's a big tradition in my family. They won't mind if I don't spend much money but I will feel bad if I can't come up with something appropriate. It's tough to come up with a thoughtful present when you're short on both money AND time...

Cheers Tim! Have you seen the preview site for my forthcoming spanking site Dreams of Spanking yet? If you like my work, you might be interested: http://dreamsofspanking.com :)

Ah, brilliant to meet another fan of good sci-fi/fantasy/speculative fiction. I haven't read any of Kage Baker's work but I do know how awesome Charlie Stross is. It's one of my ambitions to get him and Tom together in a pub one day; they remind me of each other rather a lot. Actually Dreams of Spanking includes a clip loosely inspired by the Laundry novels, and I'm still working up the courage to email CS and let him know!

James Tiptree Jnr is also a new name for me - thanks ever so much for the recommendations, I'll be sure to check them out :)

So lovely of you. I feel like our blogs aren't really comparable though because I just ramble about real life and most of your posts are actual pieces of fiction. It seems like a much more impressive endeavour!

Oh, there was a question I was meaning to ask you. Most of your stories are about punishments of a similar severity level with similar implements, albeit in very different psychological contexts. I absolutely love the pitch most of your punishments are set at, physically, which is why your work appeals to me so much. But I was meaning to ask, since I expect not all your real life play takes that shape, do you fantasise about other implements/severity levels - about short sharp punishments, or hand spanking? (Nothing wrong at all if you don't - favourite fantasies don't represent the sum of our tastes and my own top fantasies aren't terribly varied - but I'm very interested in how other people's kink works!)

You're very welcome! I'm glad you had fun with it :)

Yes, much better thankyou Kaelah :) Glad you enjoyed this meme!

Oooh, fudge is a great idea. I could make pretty boxes for it as well... good thinking! Yes please, I would love to have your recipe if it's not too much trouble :)

Pandora you have a nice blog ,nice vids you do at Northern spanking and others ,love and spanks ,tim xx

Cheers Tim! Have you seen the preview site for my forthcoming spanking site Dreams of Spanking yet? If you like my work, you might be interested: http://dreamsofspanking.com :)

Ah, brilliant to meet another fan of good sci-fi/fantasy/speculative fiction. I haven't read any of Kage Baker's work but I do know how awesome Charlie Stross is. It's one of my ambitions to get him and Tom together in a pub one day; they remind me of each other rather a lot. Actually Dreams of Spanking includes a clip loosely inspired by the Laundry novels, and I'm still working up the courage to email CS and let him know!

James Tiptree Jnr is also a new name for me - thanks ever so much for the recommendations, I'll be sure to check them out :)

So lovely of you. I feel like our blogs aren't really comparable though because I just ramble about real life and most of your posts are actual pieces of fiction. It seems like a much more impressive endeavour!

Oh, there was a question I was meaning to ask you. Most of your stories are about punishments of a similar severity level with similar implements, albeit in very different psychological contexts. I absolutely love the pitch most of your punishments are set at, physically, which is why your work appeals to me so much. But I was meaning to ask, since I expect not all your real life play takes that shape, do you fantasise about other implements/severity levels - about short sharp punishments, or hand spanking? (Nothing wrong at all if you don't - favourite fantasies don't represent the sum of our tastes and my own top fantasies aren't terribly varied - but I'm very interested in how other people's kink works!)

You're very welcome! I'm glad you had fun with it :)

Yes, much better thankyou Kaelah :) Glad you enjoyed this meme!

Oooh, fudge is a great idea. I could make pretty boxes for it as well... good thinking! Yes please, I would love to have your recipe if it's not too much trouble :)

Interested in your reading choices; I've been a fan of Charles De Lint for around 20 years now (when you could only get imported US versions of his books) and Charles Stross is also tremendous (and a really nice guy should you ever email him - he recommended the wonderful novels of Kage Baker to me, who you should really check out if you haven't already).

I've enjoyed novels by Elizabeth Moon and C L Doctorow too, although I'm not a big fan of Tanya Huff.

I'm sure you've come across her, but James Tiptree Jnr's stories are stunning, and often comment on gender issues. The whole idea that she fooled most of SF fandom into believing she was a man (most famously Robert Silverberg) while producing some beautiful stuff is entertaining of itself.

Anyway, looking forward to the new site when you do get it up and running.

All the best

Tim

Ah, brilliant to meet another fan of good sci-fi/fantasy/speculative fiction. I haven't read any of Kage Baker's work but I do know how awesome Charlie Stross is. It's one of my ambitions to get him and Tom together in a pub one day; they remind me of each other rather a lot. Actually Dreams of Spanking includes a clip loosely inspired by the Laundry novels, and I'm still working up the courage to email CS and let him know!

James Tiptree Jnr is also a new name for me - thanks ever so much for the recommendations, I'll be sure to check them out :)

So lovely of you. I feel like our blogs aren't really comparable though because I just ramble about real life and most of your posts are actual pieces of fiction. It seems like a much more impressive endeavour!

Oh, there was a question I was meaning to ask you. Most of your stories are about punishments of a similar severity level with similar implements, albeit in very different psychological contexts. I absolutely love the pitch most of your punishments are set at, physically, which is why your work appeals to me so much. But I was meaning to ask, since I expect not all your real life play takes that shape, do you fantasise about other implements/severity levels - about short sharp punishments, or hand spanking? (Nothing wrong at all if you don't - favourite fantasies don't represent the sum of our tastes and my own top fantasies aren't terribly varied - but I'm very interested in how other people's kink works!)

You're very welcome! I'm glad you had fun with it :)

Yes, much better thankyou Kaelah :) Glad you enjoyed this meme!

Oooh, fudge is a great idea. I could make pretty boxes for it as well... good thinking! Yes please, I would love to have your recipe if it's not too much trouble :)

I'm so happy to be one of the peoople that help entertain you. It makes me hopeful that I can return the huge favor you've done for me by providing such an entertaining, sexy, thoughtful, and intelligent blog.

You are one of my muses of course and a big part of the reason I tried starting a spanking blog in the first place.

Also, thank you for the recommendations I'm seeing here for blogs to read that I wasn't familiar with. What an interesting crowd I'm among :-)

I'm sorry you were having a such a down day and I hope you're on the upswing now. Warm hugs from me.

Love,
Quai

So lovely of you. I feel like our blogs aren't really comparable though because I just ramble about real life and most of your posts are actual pieces of fiction. It seems like a much more impressive endeavour!

Oh, there was a question I was meaning to ask you. Most of your stories are about punishments of a similar severity level with similar implements, albeit in very different psychological contexts. I absolutely love the pitch most of your punishments are set at, physically, which is why your work appeals to me so much. But I was meaning to ask, since I expect not all your real life play takes that shape, do you fantasise about other implements/severity levels - about short sharp punishments, or hand spanking? (Nothing wrong at all if you don't - favourite fantasies don't represent the sum of our tastes and my own top fantasies aren't terribly varied - but I'm very interested in how other people's kink works!)

You're very welcome! I'm glad you had fun with it :)

Yes, much better thankyou Kaelah :) Glad you enjoyed this meme!

Oooh, fudge is a great idea. I could make pretty boxes for it as well... good thinking! Yes please, I would love to have your recipe if it's not too much trouble :)

Thank you so much, dear -- I'm honored! :-)

You're very welcome! I'm glad you had fun with it :)

Yes, much better thankyou Kaelah :) Glad you enjoyed this meme!

Oooh, fudge is a great idea. I could make pretty boxes for it as well... good thinking! Yes please, I would love to have your recipe if it's not too much trouble :)

Thank you very much, Pandora! :-) I've just published my Versatile Blogger Award post. I hope you are feeling better now than you did two days ago?!

Yes, much better thankyou Kaelah :) Glad you enjoyed this meme!

Oooh, fudge is a great idea. I could make pretty boxes for it as well... good thinking! Yes please, I would love to have your recipe if it's not too much trouble :)

Ooh, I was so interested in your hair regime too! And I'm very honoured to have had my blog chosen by you; coming from you that means a great deal.

For low cost christmas presents, I wonder if making fudge would be good? I made loads last Christmas - it's easy, made from VERY cheap ingredients (I can send my recipe if its useful) and it tastes lovely and way better than any commercial stuff. Hope that might help xxx

Oooh, fudge is a great idea. I could make pretty boxes for it as well... good thinking! Yes please, I would love to have your recipe if it's not too much trouble :)

[...] finally began tackling the 170 unread blog posts on my blog reader this morning, I noticed that the lovely Pandora had also tagged me with the same meme. Like this:LikeBe the first to like this post. This entry [...]

As you can see, I'm way behind in my blog reading, but my late thanks are certainly sincere! I've loved reading your blog forever, and I'm so happy to have you enjoy mine and improve the discussions that occasionally occur there with your insights.

Do I dare to try your hair-washing regimen? When I think of baking soda and vinegar, it's to make volcanoes for my nephews, usually with some ridiculously inappropriate food coloring choice, like blue or green.

Okay, so you don't mix them: that way gritty grey volcanoes lie! It goes like this:

- I tend to prepare the ACV in advance. Any white vinegar will do but ACV is nicest. You want a solution of one part ACV to five parts water. I tend to pre-mix it in an empty shampoo bottle and keep it in the bathroom. You can put a sprig of rosemary or lavender in the bottle to scent it - or you can even boil up the vinegar solution with cloves, rosemary, cinnamon and other spices before letting it cool and storing it ready for use.

- Mix a heaped teaspoon of baking soda with a little water in a small pot to make a paste. Work the paste through your hair with your fingertips, starting with the greasy areas behind your ears and working it inwards. The grainy texture makes this a nice scalp massage! Your hair can be wet or dry when you do this, whatever works. I like to spend 2-3 minutes on this part - the longer the better. Or you can dilute the solution more to make it easier to cover your whole scalp. After a minute or so it'll develop a sort of soapy texture as it interacts with your scalp oils, although it never develops full suds. This is what cleanses your hair and if it's very greasy, this step alone will do.

- Leave it for 3 or 4 minutes (I tend to shave my legs while I'm waiting), then rinse thoroughly.

- Next, spritz some of the vinegar solution on your scalp. You don't need much. This restores the pH balance of your hair and also acts as a conditioner. Leave for 30 seconds and then rinse.

The rinsing is very important! If you rinse properly your hair will smell of clean hair (a scent I had never actually smelled before) rather than vinegar. Some people use tea, which is mildly acidic, instead of vinegar, which has a much nicer fragrance, but personally I find this leaves my hair feeling waxy. Honey is also a good natural conditioner for extra shine.

The above is for grease-prone hair. If your hair is naturally dry, you'll want to use less baking soda (or just a water wash or natural shampoo), and then use an intensive conditioner like coconut or shea butter. Tom has very curly/frizzy hair and he uses Dr Bronner's magic soap followed by an intensive shea butter treatment about once a week, so it depends on your hair type.

It takes a while to adjust (my hair was greasy for a few weeks) but once you get yourself out of the sodium laureth sulphate cycle your hair is *much* healthier. Chemical shampoos strip your hair of natural oils and conditioners re-apply artificial oils, locking you into an ongoing cycle. When I was using SLS shampoo I was washing my hair every day or every other day. Once I'd adjusted to this method, I could do this once a week or week and a half, and just do water washes inbetween. So it's better, and lazier!

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