Posted at 21:00 on 10 Aug 2012 by Pandora / Blake
I received a great question by email recently, and thought you might find my answer interesting. I am sharing this with the enquirer's blessing.
I am a switch, and my sub side would love to experience a harsh judicial scene that includes a prison strap and cane. I have never gone this deep into the realm before, and I don't know what to expect. My conflict starts with my job. I dispatch trains, and as a result, I have to sit for 8 hours at a time, not solidly, I do take short breaks when I can get them. The problem is I really can not be distracted when doing my job. If I go to my dominant to carry out this fantasy, will I be able to watch out for the safety of the people I dispatch? Is this something maybe I should keep as a fantasy, and not do it for real?
Just for information, I was thinking of a "sentence" of maybe 25 strokes of the prison strap, and 25 strokes of the cane for a starting point. Maybe starting with the prison strap, so she could get me howling, then "ladder" my butt with welts using the cane.
And one more thing. When I am in a session, I have a difficult time being vocal. I am pretty quiet, holding it in. Any advice on how to open up a little, to let it out?
Thanks for your email, and very interesting question! I would say that the answer depends in part on your body and level of fitness, and also on your level of spanking experience. People who have been playing regularly for some years have bottoms that tend to heal up much more quickly.
The initial 25 with the strap, while by no means a warm-up in the usual sense, will to some extent prepare your bottom for the cane, so there should be less broken skin than if you were starting with the cane from cold. However the accumulated impact will almost certainly result in deep bruising, especially if you are using a relatively thick or dense cane.
The last time I played at a judicial level was my shoot for Pain4Fem in January 2009, during which I received 35 hard strokes of the cane (on top of some residual soreness from the previous days' clips shoot). I was heavily bruised all over both buttocks with a little blood, although the welts stopped bleeding very quickly. The marks took 3-4 weeks to disappear entirely. For someone without much prior spanking experience I imagine that it might take somewhat longer. (Amy Hunter, who took a harder caning on the same shoot, was both a more experienced spankee and considerably less marked.)
I flew home on my bruised bottom that evening, and got home at 4am. This was an exhausting experience. To my folly, I had agreed to work an office shift from 10am the next day. The pain of sitting was not so much acute, but a low-level, irritating ache. Mostly I felt very fatigued and fragile, and in need of aftercare and a good nights' sleep.
There are several things you can do to diminish the severity of bruising. Take arnica pills before and after the scene, and apply arnica cream frequently to the bruises to help them heal. Immediately after the scene, lie on your tummy holding an ice pack to your bottom for as long as you can bear to. When I filmed a severe 50 stroke caning with Ludwig and Kaelah last year, the spankee held an ice pack to her bottom for 20-30 minutes after the scene as we chatted and drank tea, and although her bruises initially seemed as severe as mine had been, they healed up very quickly (I'm not sure exactly how long, but within a couple of weeks I think).
Kaelah's bruised bottom after a severe caning scene I was lucky enough to capture on film (out later this year)
It also helps to make sure you are well slept, well nourished and take good care of yourself after the scene as well.
To be on the safe side, it might be worth taking a day's leave after the scene, or else do it on the first day of a weekend; if you have a day of rest snuggled up with your dominant and get a couple of good nights' sleep you should be recovered by the following day. But if you follow the above precautions, you may well be ready to go back to work sooner than that.
Regarding letting go in a scene, I wouldn't pressure yourself to react in a way you that doesn't come naturally. But sometimes roleplay can be very effective in accessing a different part of yourself than normally comes to the fore during a punishment. Alternatively, you may find it helpful to engage in some play with your dominant before the judicial scene which will open up your vulnerable side - perhaps some humiliation play, or nurturing age play, or just something very intimate which will connect you and put you in a safe emotional space.
Leave a comment if you have any advice for the questioner to add to the above!
All this talk of severe spanking play lately has made me hungry for another judicial level scene - on film, for my own website this time. And I've made friends this week with someone who has a venue that might be suitable. I'm starting to plot. I want to be tied down for the birch or cane in a historical scenario, if at all possible. But while we're there, I'd love to shoot an Isle of Man style scene in which a young male delinquent is strapped to a table to receive a sentence with the birch or tawse (delivered by a male officer, I think; perhaps witnessed by a female one).
I'm not sure it's the sort of thing any of the male bottoms at Dreams of Spanking would like to do, though, so if you're a good looking young man who is interested in playing at that level, go ahead and email me your picture.