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Finding my limit

Posted at 11:07 on 7 Oct 2013 by Pandora / Blake

It's something most of us try to do at some point. We find something that feels good and we keep exploring to see how far we can take it. We push until we find our boundaries, and once found, we might return to them every so often to test them, poke them, see if they've moved. Can I go further than last time, can I still do this at all? Is it easier or harder? How far can I go?

This summer I found my limit, and I didn't like it.

I'm not talking spanking, although this year has been full of that, too. What happened over the last few months is that I found my limit not in pain, or fear, or cane strokes or any of that fun kinky stuff, but in terms of how much I can do at once.

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Tags: Blogging, Dreams of Spanking

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Spanked to tears (part 1)

Posted at 19:11 on 9 Oct 2013 by Pandora / Blake

Last weekend was another working weekend. It wasn't without its highlights; for instance, painting Nimue Allen with a pattern of fire and autumn leaves over a shared bottle of wine, before taking nude photos of her resplendent with flames (for her site Nimue's World) was a pretty good example of ways in which working in porn can be ridiculously awesome.

Nimue Allen photographed by Pandora Blake

After that fun interlude on Friday night I needed to spend Saturday and Sunday editing video for Dreams of Spanking. Inbetween I visited D's place on Saturday evening to lift weights (he has a rack and bench in his spare room), eat dinner and spend some time together.

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Tags: D, dominance and submission, Dreams of Spanking, hand spanking, kink, Nimue Allen, Nimues World, tears

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Spanked to tears (part 2)

Posted at 20:06 on 10 Oct 2013 by Pandora / Blake

I wrote yesterday about a couple of recent scenes with D that brought me to tears. Tears during spanking are both often sought after and misunderstood. Some people seem to build them up as a sort of ultimate signifier of severity. You know: if you don't cry, it wasn't hard enough; if you cry it must have been really bad. But as my experiences with D show, tears can be triggered by the lightest of spankings. It can be simply about your emotional state going into a scene, the trust between you and your spanking partner, a feeling of helplessness or vulnerability.

I sometimes receive emails from submissive clients asking if I can make them cry in a scene. This request is usually framed as being about "pushing their limits", but tears and limits are by no means synonymous. Actually, pushing my limits is generally an empowering experience for me, a challenge of my strength, and rarely associated with the fragile, vulnerable headspace in which I'm likely to cry.

Crying during spanking is, I think, fundamentally about letting go. If you are trying to control yourself, your reactions, or the scene itself, you're unlikely to cry.

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Tags: dominance and submission, Dreams of Spanking, featured photos, kink, Performers and producers, Photos, Sites and studios, tears, Thomas Cameron

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Interview with Jacques Magazine

Posted at 13:15 on 14 Oct 2013 by Pandora / Blake

This interview went up at the start of August, during my summer's busiest period, so I've only just got round to sharing it. Jacques Magazine is a new publication in the tradition of classic erotic magazines, combining intelligent articles and opinion with interviews, fiction and hot photo pictorials.

I really enjoyed answering their questions, which included my take on submission, porn production ethics, corporate censorship and the government's "war on porn", and some teaser details about my next porn site project. Thanks Jacques for the fun interview - I'm looking forward to shooting with them when I'm in the US next year!

Interview with Jacques Magazine: Meet Pandora Blake  Englands hottest spanking model and entrepreneur

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Tags: Blogging, dominance and submission, Dreams of Spanking, Extreme porn legislation, Fairtrade porn, interviews, Politics

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