DIY porn - how to make it and feel good doing it

Posted at 18:00 on 5 Mar 2018 by Pandora / Blake

Tags: Bright Desire, Cookie Cosmos, Dante, DIY porn, Emma Celeste, Lilith, Nimue Allen, Nimue's World, public speaking, talk, The Book Club, workshop

Pandora Blake presents DIY Porn - how to make it and feel good doing it

I didn’t spend Valentine's Day with my lover this year. I spent it supporting curious couples and individuals to express themselves sexually on camera. I’m not complaining. I saw Felix the following night - and I really love my job.

I was teaching an adult sex education class on DIY Porn: how to make it and feel good doing it. The event was produced by The Book Club in Shoreditch, the same people who hosted my talk a few months ago on feminist porn. This one was intended as a provocative evening out for couples who wanted to have a go at making their own sex tapes, but also open to anyone who wanted to try their hand at shooting porn. I was contacted on Twitter afterwards by an escort friend considering making the move into shooting clips, who said that the class inspired her, which delighted me; I’m pleased that the class wasn’t just useful to hetero couples, but to queer sex workers too!

The evening was really enjoyable. It sold out, which always feels good - we had a full room, and there was a queue of people at the door waiting to get in. I did have one mishap, which was that I managed to fail to bring all the clips I was going to screen. When I got there I discovered that only one of the video files had successfully transferred onto the pen drive. I was kicking myself. I had been so distracted by getting the slides prepared and getting ready, that I had somehow failed to check the file transfer before leaving the house. So I was in a state of high tension as the talk was about to start, messaging my partner and asking them to upload the files for me from home. Luckily they are the best, and saved my bacon by doing the upload as soon as they got in from work. It was just in the nick of time - I got all the files safely as the last person took their seat!

Other than that things went without a hitch. I’d spent more time than usual preparing the slides and planning what to say, which helped. I’d also taken care editing the clips that I was screening. I showed a few excerpts from films by my porn friends to give people an idea of what you can shoot at home, and hopefully inspire people to have a go themselves.

I’ve uploaded the slides to my Patreon page for my supporters, so if you missed the talk then pop over to my crowdfunder, and by donating as little as $1 a month you can get access to all the material I presented.

I screened four clips during the evening to showcase some different approaches to DIY porn, and demonstrate that you don’t need expensive equipment or loads of experience to create something really sexy. I kicked things off with two short excerpts from films by Nimue Allen, from her site NimuesWorld.com. I decided to start with a bang, and opened with a recent film starring Nimue and Emma Celeste, in which the two BBWs explore the pleasures of fisting together. They they used to go out, and this was one of their favourite things to do together, so they want to share how they do it and why they like it. I thought this piece was a great one to start with as it was shot on a single static camera on a tripod at the foot of the bed, but nonetheless shows some really nice intimacy and connection - so it’s a really great example of the sort of thing you can shoot yourself at home. I particularly like the fact it shows Nimue pausing to put on the gloves and ensure there’s enough lube, and Emma’s responses leave the viewer in no doubt that she’s really enjoying what’s happening.

Pandora Blake presents DIY Porn - Fisting Fun and Blown Away by Nimue Allen

It was quite a delight from my point of view to see the faces of the audience, many of whom had arrived in male-female couples, and some of whom I think had never seen anything like this before. There were quite a few open-mouthed faces in the audience. If I did one thing of use that evening, I’m very happy to have introduced people to fisting.

Second, I showed a short excerpt from Nimue’s film ‘Blown Away’ which is a POV film with her and her real life partner The Chap. The Chap was holding the camera with Nimue looking up at him, giving him a long, luxurious, teasing blowjob. This was her first boy-girl scene on camera, and The Chap’s first appearance in porn. Fun fact: I went to school with this guy and I’ve known him since I was 11 years old. I was pretty chuffed to be able to screen his porn debut to an audience of fascinated people in London. I texted him afterwards to let him know how well it had gone down (pun intended!), and he was entertained to say the least! I do enjoy having such good friendships with my siblings in the porn community.

In addition to helping prepare people to make their own DIY porn, this workshop was a chance for me to showcase some of my friends’ work. The second clip I screened was ‘A Collar for Kitty’ by Cookie Cosmos. It’s a cute little story starring Cookie and their real-life girlfriend Kitty, in which Kitty comes to visit and Cookie surprises her with a collar that they’ve bought for her. It’s an adorable film - they’ve taken a lot of care over the shots and the editing, and the storyline flows really nicely. But the cutest thing is Kitty’s reactions. She’s almost helpless with delight as she feels Cookie buckle the collar around her throat, and makes lots of delightful squeaking noises as Cookie goes down on her and makes her writhe with pleasure.

Pandora Blake presents DIY Porn - A Collar for Kitty by Cookie Cosmos

I feel like this film is a charming demonstration that real people in real relationships can look amazing on camera. Kitty doesn’t wear make up in this scene, and has a natural look; and she comes across as relaxed and unselfconscious. It’s clear that she’s not worrying about how she looks, but is totally focused on Cookie and on the sensations she’s experiencing. This is exactly what I advise to couples who are anxious about creating a hot memento of their sex like: don’t worry about the camera, but focus on how it feels, and on your partner. There’s a skill to working the camera, but first and foremost, a sexy porn performance begins with being present, and immersing yourself in what’s happening.

Finally I upped the ante with a more cinematic clip from BrightDesire.com by Ms Naughty. This is an influential feminist porn outfit run by a good friend, and you can see a couple of my scenes on there with Parker Marx. I screened one of their more recent offerings, shot in Berlin with real-life couple Lilith and Dante.

Pandora Blake presents DIY Porn - Lilith and Dante by Bright Desire

Although there were several visibly queer couples in the audience, the majority of people who came seemed to be in male/female couples; and as far as I could tell the Book Club had marketed it to amateur couples who were interested in shooting sex tapes for their own private usage, rather than people interested in shooting commercial projects. As such I wanted to ensure that I included at least one boy-girl sex film shot with a real-life couple.

I also wanted to give a glimpse into how beautiful and stylish porn can be, without losing authenticity. While this quality of production is not something most amateur film makers could aspire to straight away, Ms Naughty’s films combine high production values with genuine intimacy. Porn can be amazingly erotic when it’s created by people who really care, with performers who are really into each other.

I’m intending to run more events like this, so if you missed this one then don’t worry, it won’t be the last. If you’re curious to know some of what I talked about, check out the article at Dazed based on an interview I gave whilst I was writing the talk, and in which I give my top tips for getting started making your own DIY porn.

Porn sometimes seems like it’s another world created by alien beings: sexual athletes with whom we can never compete. But many people prefer DIY and amateur productions, finding them hotter and more relatable. I believe that if more of us create our own videos showing the ways in which we fuck, our own bodies, our own relationships, and our real sexualities and genders, we will widen the representation available in erotic cinema. If more of us make our own, we will make it easier for people like us to see themselves represented on screen, and increase diversity and inclusion so that porn doesn’t all look the same. Not only that, but by modelling good consent, communication and negotiation with our real-life lovers, we can help dismantle rape culture and promote better consent.

Porn foster empathy and relatedness: when we watch someone on screen we might put ourselves in their or their partner's shoes; this connection gives us access to seeing the world through their eyes. As such, I think porn can be a unique opportunity for increasing connection and undertanding between different members of our society. Sharing sex and arousal through porn, people from different groups and demographics find that although there are differences between us, there are also areas of commonality, and experiences and desires that we share.

Let’s all participate in changing the landscape of porn in our society by making our own porn that's based on consent, trust, communication, and intimacy. DIY porn can help us dismantle prejudice, promote good consent and change the world.

Pandora Blake presents DIY Porn - how to make it and feel good doing it

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