This is the article I was sent by Zoe Montana and Molly Malone last week, which pretty much sums up my entire trip:
Casual Love – Carsie Blanton
“I’m thrilled that young people are beginning to feel they have the option of exploring sex, safely and consensually, outside of the boundaries of long-term commitment.
But why not have the option of exploring love, too, with or without a side of commitment? If we can agree that our bodies are not inherently dangerous, can’t we do the same for our hearts?”
In a way this wasn’t news to me, but it was glorious to be given the language with which to think about it; to be given permission to love without fear.
This is a theme that ran through my entire journey. I started out in at the Feminist Porn Awards immersed for the first time amongst queer hardcore porn performers, watching and listening with great interest, in relation to my own professional development both as a director and as a performer. I went to the Feminist Porn Conference with ideas about intimacy, love and authenticity which privileged “real couples” and I left having had those ideas exploded. As Sophie Delancey put it in her talk, “You don’t have to have had a fight in Ikea to have chemistry and intimacy on camera”.