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Weekend hyperkinks #5

Posted by Pandora on October 2nd, 2011

Since I started doing these hyperkinks posts – weekend roundups of the interesting links that I’ve recently posted on Twitter, for the benefit of those who don’t use the site, or at least aren’t permanently glued to their feeds – it’s been cool to see the fluctuations in the sort of thing I repost. Some weeks it’s all sex positive feminism, sex worker rights, female gaze porn. Other weeks it’s all writing about kink.

This edition of Hyperkinks is, apparently all about the porn. Specifically, it’s mostly about caning. I’m struggling to fit it into my usual “kink, porn and politics” categories – but I trust that won’t put you off.

This first section defies categorisation – a mishmash of female gaze, relationships, sex and gender politics.

Men of the Stacks: a nudie calendar “representing the professional and personal interests of male librarians”.
Lucy McLean linked me at this surprising, but awesome link to nylon tights designed especially for men by Hosiery legend GERBE – a step forward for cross-dressers, genderbenders and fashion conscious chaps.
Mistress Matisse asks whether straight men who try to be sex objects are ridiculous – a thought-provoking analysis of how both men and women perpetuate this particular piece of sexism.
In the UK? Don’t miss the Sex Workers Open University, Oct 12-16, with workshops, performances, and community, urges Kitty Stryker.
May May has a draft article on polyamory and social networks which is worth a read. “The most obvious limitation with the often-monogamous notion of “true love” is that it creates a scarcity model.”
I was amused both by the name of the The Asylum Street Spankers and their song Stick Magnetic Ribbons on Your SUV. Who said kink and politics don’t mix?
This one is definitely porn rather than politics, but it’s not spanking either, so here it goes. The trailer for Elegance Studios’ new horror bondage flick Haunted looks beautiful, incredibly well made, and makes me wish damsels-in-distress was more my kink.
Every kinkster or chronic pain sufferer should go and look at Hyperbole and a Half’s awesome and hilarious CHART OF PAIN.

Spanking non-fiction

I love Rayne’s Countdown Caning concept in this post. Rising fear, speed and adrenaline! Definitely one to try.
Ten Amorette problematises the idea of “vanilla” in her excellent post What’s your flavor?
Minx Girls’ “how to” guide to spanking is well worth a read – I’d recommend it as a link to give to newbie spankers – with a focus on warm ups and implements.
Moving writing on self-pleasure and sexual power by new kink blogger Motley Wanderer: Healing with Masturbation. “In submission I give power to a Dom (real or imaginary!), but I then receive my own sexual power back tenfold.”
Intense, scary yet affirming report of a cold school caning scene by Kami Robertson.

Spanking fiction

A Barn Burner is a first attempt at M/M spanking fiction from a straight male writer. This one is close to my heart, as it was my own writing about the invisibility of M/M as a genre that inspired him to try his hand. It’s also an emotion-laden Vietnam war era father/son domestic discipline scene centred around a heart-thumpingly severe strapping. All good with me.
A squirmy hot dormitory/cellblock punishment image from Lupus Spanking. The position looks horrible, horrible; but I love the implication that the row of beds (and inmates awaiting punishment) is endless, extending to either side of the frame for miles and miles…
Buffy the Vampire Slayer getting a searingly hard hairbrush spanking from a furious Faith: one sizzling panel in the ongoing comic Slayer’s Revenge.
In need of some sexual relief the other day, I turned to this free judicial punishment clip from the Spanking Court. I know from reading Erika Scott’s report of shooting with them that these guys treat their performers well, which makes the severity of the scenes all the more appealing.
Actually I don’t know if this photo counts as fiction or non-fiction, so take your best guess. Either way, what stands out for me is the relaxed smile on her face as the cane’s about to fall…

Pretty cane marks
(Yep. An entire section devoted to pretty cane marks. What?)

Pretty purple welts from Dallas Spanks Hard
Nimue Allen shows off vivid lines immediately after a judicial punishment: 24 strokes of the cane, hard, from cold
Whippy red stingers from GBS
And finally, the aesthetically appealing bruises I sported the day after earning my Caning Merit Badge:

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Weekend hyperkinks #3

Posted by Pandora on August 6th, 2011

Every time I think back on Thursday night I can’t help grinning. I feel like I did after my first well-paid glamour shoot; like a successful shoplifter. There’s a tremendous sense of self-sufficiency, and the giggling, incredulous thrill of having done something outrageous and got away with it. (Although I haven’t quite got away scot-free – aside from the hangover and a bruise on Jacq’s right cheek, my quads have been bloody painful the last two days, and I have no idea why. Can you strain them just by kneeling up on the bed for extended periods of time?)

But enough about me. On to this week’s hyperkinks!

My name is me: a new website bringing together people from all walks of life to challenge Google+ and Facebook’s restrictive and damaging policy disallowing pseudonyms. Violet Blue’s statement in particular is a must-read.
Maggie Mayhem and Kitty Stryker have put together a new website on ways members of the BDSM community can work together to prevent abuse: www.consentculture.com. Here’s an interview with them about the project, and here’s Kitty’s call for people to contribute their stories.
Jane of Janes Guide has written two great articles recently on this topic: BDSM, negotiation and consent, and More on BDSM and abuse. Raw, personal and thought-provoking – worth a read.
Lab Coats and Lingerie has a hard-hitting take on the problems with our restrictive model of what it means to be a female top in One of the nineteen. “I had no image of dominance other than the PVC-encased dominatrix, which–while fun to look at–sure isn’t anything like me. Not matching the classic femdom image didn’t just make me not a dominant … I actually believed I was not kinky.”
Now for some eye candy! I love this Victorian schoolgirl birching photo.
Elegance Studios have a trailer up for their forthcoming bondage feature film, Slave Auction
There’s a tremendously engaging sense of fun in this bedroom bondage photo – looking at it I feel like I’m right there with them.
Maggie Mayhem and her partner Ned have teamed up to launch an exciting new homegrown porn site, Meet the Mayhems. It combines sex education, informative articles, hot photos and steamy, satirical sex scenes between two people who are really into each other. At $8/month with no strict update schedule and pay-per-download options, it also represents an interesting new take on the traditional paysite model.
Next weekend I’m giving a talk at BDSMtag, a kink advocacy and outreach conference in Cologne. One of the organisers is Direktor Sands of SM Circus fame, and he suggested I travel over for the weekend, shoot on the Friday and attend the conference on the Saturday. They proposed an interview format for the talk, which is on BDSM and politics in the UK, so Ludwig has volunteered to help out by asking the questions. Should be fun!
Is Spanked, Not Silenced one of your favourite blogs? If so, please visit Between My Sheets and nominate my blog for the 2011 Sexiest Bloggers awards. There’s some great political and sex positive blogs already on the list, and a few kinky blogs, but there aren’t many candidates yet that are both political and kinky. I’d really appreciate the chance to give the topics I write about a wider reach. It’d make me very happy if one of you took the time to make a nomination