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WPC Blake at Unladylike Manor

My episode of Unladylike Manor is up at Spanking Sarah this week. I watched it last night and it’s a really fun spanking story which turned out just as well as I’d hoped.

Sarah absolutely excels at twisty, long-running storylines, spanking soap operas if you will, and Unladylike Manor is the longest and twistiest. With its recurring characters, in-jokes and playful sense of humour it seems light on the surface, but there’s a dark edge too. Sarah loves blackmail scenarios and other compromising situations, and many of the spankings in the series explore unfair punishments and complex consent.

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Midweek hyperkinks #6

I haven’t done a hyperkinks post in months – but don’t worry, I’m not going to attempt a complete catch up. Just a brief glimpse at some of the interesting and sexy things that have populated the internet in the last couple of weeks. Kink Feminist S&M Lessons from the Seduction Community by Clarisse Thorn. [...]

Male spanking showcase #2

As you were so tolerant of my last spanked men picture post, I’m going to indulge myself and do another one.

Defining feminist porn

A little while ago I wrote an article in which I attempted to define what “fairtrade” porn would look like. There obviously isn’t an international standard for fairtrade porn, but perhaps there should be. Production ethics are something I’d love to see more producers publically talking about, especially the ones who are already doing things right.

As a feminist, I’m not only interested in ethical production in general, but also the specific ways in which porn can be compatible with feminist values. (My feminism is post-third wave sex positive trans/queer feminism, which holds no innate incompability with explicit sexual imagery and self-expression.) Not all producers are interested in being feminist, and that’s okay: I’m not saying that those studios are unethical. But if you do identify as a feminist, how does that affect the porn you make?

It’s not quite as simple as that feminist porn should be woman-positive, while fairtrade porn should be human-positive: it’s more that I think feminist porn takes extra care with gender expression, and strives to be explicitly gender egalitarian in its approach. Quizzical Mama has proposed some good guidelines, but they don’t leave space for low-budget/homegrown productions, nor for feminists who wish to explore their kinky, violent or nonconsensual fantasies in a progressive way.


Images via Sex is not the enemy

Although my own porn is kinky, I’ve tried to come up with a general set of principles which would apply to any kind of production. As always, I’m mostly interested in the realities of production, rather than the type of fantasy explored on screen. It’s informed by the good work already done by feminist pornographers: I’m not trying to re-invent the wheel here. My aim is to boost signal for good ideas, and extend the conversation.

Obviously any feminist pornographer has their own understanding, and I’m not trying to police anyone else’s feminism. This stab at a definition reflects my own process as a newbie pornographer: at this point in time, what does feminist porn mean to me?

Radical porn

Jimmy Holloway and Adele Haze at Dreams of SpankingI’ve just published a two part article on the Dreams of Spanking blog about making radical porn.

In part 1 I ask: is gender segregation in porn as intolerant as race segregation would be, and is it okay to discriminate on gender lines because it’s “not your kink”? To what extent can we hold individual producers responsible for being complicit in segregation and inequality in porn? How much social responsibility do porn producers have, anyway? I also question the tendency to defer to “market forces” as an excuse for maintaining an unfair status quo.

In part 2 I look at the duty website owners have to cater to the taste of their members, and the extent to which all businesses choose their audience. I also examine the tension between quality/originality and marketability/profitability and the assessment and balancing of risks which is inherent in all creative entrepreneurship, and the role economic and social privilege plays in this. Finally, I examine my own privilege in an unfair society – and why I’ve made the choices I have.

This article is the culmination of quite a lot of thinking on the social and economic issues involved in pushing the boundaries of porn production. I’d be very interested to hear what people have to say.

Radical porn I: complicity and the status quo

Radical porn II: privilege and balancing risks

Nimue’s World is live!

I woke up to a fantastic piece of news on Friday, which will bring delight to anyone who has similar taste in porn to me. Nimue‘s own kinky paysite, Nimue’s World, is now live and open to members.

You may have seen Nimue getting spanked on Northern Spanking, English Spankers and Spanking Sarah, and her performance work also includes extreme BDSM and bondage, camming and getting naked in public. She brings all her interests together in Nimue’s World, a groundbreaking website which not only bridges the genres of spanking, BDSM, bondage and queer sex, but is one of the very few UK porn sites singlehandedly produced and directed by a female spankee.

Nimue’s World features Nimue being both submissive and dominant in a variety of kinky situations; explicit lesbian scenes; extreme bondage and hardcore BDSM; creative scenarios with willing performers; a range of body types; genuine dominance and submission between her and her real life Daddy/Owner (known on the site as “The Boss”).

The site is artistically designed, and already includes twenty scenarios with both photo galleries and videos, and promises two updates a week. There’s a tantalising F/F BDSM scene showing Nimue domming Adele Haze, and future updates will include the spanking and BDSM scenes Nimue and I shot together. In addition, the member’s area offers access to Nimue’s private video blog, a forum, model interviews and exclusive monthly cam shows where members can direct the action.

If you want to see more spanking porn made by women and by spankees, more porn which breaks out of the conventional boxes and spans genres to fully represent the desires of the primary performer, more real D/S and real kinky relationships captured on camera, and more independent sites prepared to take creative risks, you should show Nimue your support and enter her world.

Male spanking showcase

I’ve been experiencing a slightly strange phenomenon lately, while working fulltime getting Dreams of Spanking ready for launch. I’ve got used to seeing pictures of both men and women being spanked on a regular basis. It’s changed my perspective on most of the spanking sites and blogs I read. Suddenly, sites which only feature female spankees seem weirdly limited to me. It feels kind of unnatural and artificial to restrict appreciation of a shapely reddened bottom to only one sex.

Obviously, as a woman writing a blog about her personal experience of spanking, this site has always had a similarly skewed focus as well. And when I’m reading about a particular couple’s adventures it doesn’t seem as odd. I just wish that more of the sites aiming to give a broad look at spanking fantasies or spanking updates online included some scenarios in which boys get spanked too. To me, these days, it would feel much more normal.

Anyway, even though it’s hard to find the range I’m looking for within individual blogs, I’ve been able to provide some balance to my general viewing experience by adding sites focussing exclusively on boys getting spanked to my feed reader. The segregation seems a bit weird, but at least the end result is a pleasing mixture.

As a result, I’ve found loads of hot spanking photos of men. I didn’t even know how good some of the F/M and M/M sites were until I started looking, because they’re so rarely covered in the “mainstream” spanking roundups. So I wanted to share the goods for the benefit of other people who would quite like to look at cute male spankees, but don’t know where to find them. Still, I found myself hesitating. What if I alienated all my readers?

But then I thought, sod it, this is my blog and it’s about the spankings I find hot. So this post is for me, and for anyone else, boy or girl, who enjoys looking at quality spanking pictures and doesn’t really mind who’s getting it, as long as they’re spankable.

And some of these men are very spankable.


Fab poster art by Dave at Spanking4men. If you want a way into the world of spanked men, you could do a lot worse than starting with his Male spanking awards.


How irresistable is that bubble butt?


I saw this picture and my imagination instantly ran riot visualing the relationship I would have with this rugged spankee bear.

Not to mention this one:

HOT.


This doctor/patient scene by Sting Pictures looks rather good.


Pyjama-clad brat waiting for a bedtime spanking…


Mmm, I do love me a spanker in a suit.


Waiting in the woodshed


Ever wondered what happened if you pissed off Wonderwoman? Now you know.


Busted for dealing drugs? I’d take a spanking from Officer Chris over a prison term any day.


Who says boys don’t have curves?


More beautiful curves.


Scary spanker; pretty strapped bottom.


Mmmmmmmleather.


I really enjoyed the institutional paddling clip at the bottom of this post.


This one provided a certain amount of fantasy fodder too. (Do I have a thing for strong men being whacked with heavy wooden paddles? Maaaaaybe.)

Finally, I absolutely adored this real life discipline story by Audrey Knight, in which she tells us about spanking her boyfriend and brat, Stefan. Captures the emotional intimacy of a discipline dynamic so well, and I found it absolutely fascinating to read about the dominant perspective.

Weekend hyperkinks #5

Since I started doing these hyperkinks posts – weekend roundups of the interesting links that I’ve recently posted on Twitter, for the benefit of those who don’t use the site, or at least aren’t permanently glued to their feeds – it’s been cool to see the fluctuations in the sort of thing I repost. Some weeks it’s all sex positive feminism, sex worker rights, female gaze porn. Other weeks it’s all writing about kink.

This edition of Hyperkinks is, apparently all about the porn. Specifically, it’s mostly about caning. I’m struggling to fit it into my usual “kink, porn and politics” categories – but I trust that won’t put you off.

This first section defies categorisation – a mishmash of female gaze, relationships, sex and gender politics.

  • Men of the Stacks: a nudie calendar “representing the professional and personal interests of male librarians”.
  • Lucy McLean linked me at this surprising, but awesome link to nylon tights designed especially for men by Hosiery legend GERBE – a step forward for cross-dressers, genderbenders and fashion conscious chaps.
  • Mistress Matisse asks whether straight men who try to be sex objects are ridiculous – a thought-provoking analysis of how both men and women perpetuate this particular piece of sexism.
  • In the UK? Don’t miss the Sex Workers Open University, Oct 12-16, with workshops, performances, and community, urges Kitty Stryker.
  • May May has a draft article on polyamory and social networks which is worth a read. “The most obvious limitation with the often-monogamous notion of “true love” is that it creates a scarcity model.”
  • I was amused both by the name of the The Asylum Street Spankers and their song Stick Magnetic Ribbons on Your SUV. Who said kink and politics don’t mix?
  • This one is definitely porn rather than politics, but it’s not spanking either, so here it goes. The trailer for Elegance Studios’ new horror bondage flick Haunted looks beautiful, incredibly well made, and makes me wish damsels-in-distress was more my kink.
  • Every kinkster or chronic pain sufferer should go and look at Hyperbole and a Half’s awesome and hilarious CHART OF PAIN.

Spanking non-fiction

  • I love Rayne’s Countdown Caning concept in this post. Rising fear, speed and adrenaline! Definitely one to try.
  • Ten Amorette problematises the idea of “vanilla” in her excellent post What’s your flavor?
  • Minx Girls’ “how to” guide to spanking is well worth a read – I’d recommend it as a link to give to newbie spankers – with a focus on warm ups and implements.
  • Moving writing on self-pleasure and sexual power by new kink blogger Motley Wanderer: Healing with Masturbation. “In submission I give power to a Dom (real or imaginary!), but I then receive my own sexual power back tenfold.”
  • Intense, scary yet affirming report of a cold school caning scene by Kami Robertson.

Spanking fiction

  • A Barn Burner is a first attempt at M/M spanking fiction from a straight male writer. This one is close to my heart, as it was my own writing about the invisibility of M/M as a genre that inspired him to try his hand. It’s also an emotion-laden Vietnam war era father/son domestic discipline scene centred around a heart-thumpingly severe strapping. All good with me.
  • A squirmy hot dormitory/cellblock punishment image from Lupus Spanking. The position looks horrible, horrible; but I love the implication that the row of beds (and inmates awaiting punishment) is endless, extending to either side of the frame for miles and miles…
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer getting a searingly hard hairbrush spanking from a furious Faith: one sizzling panel in the ongoing comic Slayer’s Revenge.
  • In need of some sexual relief the other day, I turned to this free judicial punishment clip from the Spanking Court. I know from reading Erika Scott’s report of shooting with them that these guys treat their performers well, which makes the severity of the scenes all the more appealing.
  • Actually I don’t know if this photo counts as fiction or non-fiction, so take your best guess. Either way, what stands out for me is the relaxed smile on her face as the cane’s about to fall…

Pretty cane marks
(Yep. An entire section devoted to pretty cane marks. What?)

  • Pretty purple welts from Dallas Spanks Hard
  • Nimue Allen shows off vivid lines immediately after a judicial punishment: 24 strokes of the cane, hard, from cold
  • Whippy red stingers from GBS
  • And finally, the aesthetically appealing bruises I sported the day after earning my Caning Merit Badge:

Schoolboys and aristocrats

I'd put a casting call up on my blog, but disappointingly, my inbox was not instantly flooded with requests for work from bright young things willing to shoot M/M spanking scenes. I received lots of emails from willing chaps over 40 who wanted to bottom to women, but lovely as I'm sure they were, none of them was really suitable for the scenes I had in mind.

In the end it was Twitter that solved my problem. I posted to the effect that I was looking for kinky young men willing to bottom on camera for CP films, and that I was offering competitive rates of pay, creative input and good times. Someone on my feed put me in touch with a friend of theirs. He didn't have a website, but he did have a link to a fetlife profile. I took one look at his photo gallery and was sold.

Ladies and gentlemen, I'd like to introduce you to Dreams of Spanking's newest star, Sebastian Hawley:

Sebastian switches, but was mostly interested in new encounters as a bottom, and had experience at modelling and acting. He's into deep D/S and service. Plus, look at that beautiful inkwork. I had to shoot him. All I needed now was someone to top.

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Female gaze, spankee gaze

Well, the name and URL of my forthcoming spanking site has now been released into the wild, and the pre-launch page is open to the public. I've been thrilled by the positive response so far. Thanks so much to all who have signed up to our mailing list, followed us on twitter, left positive comments on photos and written emails. It's been great to see others sharing my excitement about this project. Thanks also to those who have sent constructive criticism and feedback which has enabled us to improve aspects of the site, especially our introductory text on the homepage.

I've wanted to post these vintage photo montages since I first saw them on Chross' blog, but they fit the Dreams of Spanking idea so perfectly I've been holding off until the URL was made public. Check these out:

      

Aren't they wonderful? I love the facial expressions of the daydreamer, and the contrast between her lustful body language on the bench, and her submissive postures in the daydream. I'm seriously tempted to recreate this series as a full photoset for Dreams of Spanking :)

But the most exciting thing about these images, to me, is that they represent an early example of female gaze spanking erotica. Not only female gaze, in fact – but spankee gaze.

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