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Porn Film Festival Berlin 2015

Posted at 23:13 on 2 Nov 2015 by Pandora / Blake

The Porn Film Festival Berlin is literally a life-changing event - and I don't say that lightly. It has certainly changed mine.

This year was its tenth anniversary, and a record 7 500 people attended screenings of cutting-edge porn from around the world. The offerings are incredibly diverse, including feminist porn, fetish porn, experimental porn, queer and trans porn, from short films to features ... but the festival doesn't only showcase film intended to arouse, it is also packed with documentaries, art films, docu-portraits, and myriad factual and fictional pieces exploring sex, gender and sexuality.

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Tags: censorship, Dreams of Spanking, Eliza Grey, ethical porn, f-f, f-m, fairtrade porn, female gaze, politics, porn, Porn Film Festival Berlin, queer politics, Tai Crimson


Bitch in business

Posted at 10:33 on 29 Dec 2014 by Pandora / Blake

Three Columbia Business School students have made a kick-ass feminist parody of Meghan Trainor's catchy hit "All About That Bass" (which I love, by the way). The feminist remake takes the pro-curves, body-positive message of the original and raises it with a message about intellectual and financial equality.

It's a hard-hitting topic, but the lyrics tackle it with playful humour. Bitch in Business is relatable and on-point. I think my favourite line is "a piss is the only thing that I'll take sitting down".

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Tags: Body positivity, F-M, Female gaze, feminist remake, Gender politics, male submission, media, parody, pop music, Videos


Spanking fanfiction

Posted at 16:06 on 12 Nov 2013 by Pandora / Blake

Remus writes fanfiction by corilefayLike many women with access to the internet in their teens and early twenties, I am a reader of fanfiction. For a few years of my life it was my primary source of porn - before I discovered how much awesome video porn is out there, anyway. Long before I was old enough, or confident enough to buy site memberships with a credit card, I could read freely available wank material written by fellow fans about characters I knew and loved. Fanfic is safe, it's created by likeminded fans, and best of all to a teenage girl, it's free.

In fact the fanfiction community has several points of overlap with the open source, FOSS and Creative Commons communities, and as a cultural phenomenon I think it's fascinating, and doesn't deserve the juvenile reputation it has in some circles. At its core, fanfiction is an outpouring of sexually explicit fantasy material by young women, written for each other, on their own terms, in their own language. It is a form of media without any commercial interests, undertaken for the love of it. Fanfiction is typically, but by no means exclusively, centred around male/male fantasies. A large, perhaps disproportionate amount of it is kinky. In my opinion it absolutely deserves to be included in the conversation about female gaze or feminist pornography.

I hadn't read much of it for years, spanking video having somewhat dominated my attention in the meantime. Until I noticed that the latest person to join Dreams of Spanking had an email address @ FicWriter.com. Intrigued, I had a look.

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Tags: Dreams of Spanking, F-M, fanfiction, Fantasies, Female gaze, films and TV, M-M


Male subs on TV: Rick Castle

Posted at 14:40 on 25 Aug 2012 by Pandora / Blake

A couple of nights ago I watched the first few episodes of the TV show "Castle", which I'd been interested in ever since I discovered that it featured Nathan Fillion as a murder mystery writer playing poker with real life authors Michael Connelly, James Patterson, and Stephen J. Cannell.

It's a silly, stylish, entertaining little show. The basic premise is that Rick Castle, a bad boy bestselling author played by Nathan Fillion, ends up helping hard-hitting, no-nonsense New York detective Kate Beckett to solve homicide cases. So far, so implausible. But it does have one very interesting theme running through it. Rick Castle is sexually submissive. In fact, he's a brat. From the very first episode, the sexual tension underpinning Castle and Beckett's relationship is full of kinky references.

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Tags: f-m, films and TV, gender politics, male submission


Male spanking showcase #2

Posted at 22:48 on 2 Feb 2012 by Pandora / Blake

As you were so tolerant of my last spanked men picture post, I'm going to indulge myself and do another one. I like looking at boys' bottoms and I don't see many of them on the usual round of spanking blogs. Who knows, maybe we can start a trend.

Mmmm, dramatic cane welts.

Mike may have skipped class, but he still has my sympathy: bathbrushes are EVIL. Especially when wielded by daddy. (Reluctant Young Men)

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Tags: Brett Stevens, Clare Spanks Men, F-M, Female gaze, M-M, Male spanking models, Manc Spank, Performers and producers, Reluctant Young Men, Sites and studios, Sting Pictures


Her Ladyship's Breakfast

Posted at 23:58 on 19 Dec 2011 by Pandora / Blake

I've just announced, with great pleasure and no small amount of trepidation, the launch date of my long-awaited spanking website. Dreams of Spanking will finally go live this Friday, 23rd December.

Tonight, I want to share with you the first F/M scene I produced for Dreams of Spanking, and the only "pure" F/M scene we're launching with (if you exclude F/MF). It's called "Her Ladyship's Breakfast" and it represents a whole heap of firsts, actually: 

  • The first time real life couple Adele Haze and Jimmy Holloway played together on camera
  • Adele's first scene for us as a top
  • The first scene of the day on our shoot with talented photographer Daniel R, an old online friend who spent a day taking beautiful photos for (and of!) us
  • The first scene I produced/directed without also performing in it
  • My first attempt to produce/direct a spanking scene with a male spankee.

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Tags: Adele Haze, cane, Dreams of Spanking, F-M, Fantasies, Jimmy Holloway, Photos, porn production, Vintage


Schoolboys and aristocrats

Posted at 22:19 on 16 Sep 2011 by Pandora / Blake


I'd put a casting call up on my blog, but disappointingly, my inbox was not instantly flooded with requests for work from bright young things willing to shoot M/M spanking scenes. I received lots of emails from willing chaps over 40 who wanted to bottom to women, but lovely as I'm sure they were, none of them was really suitable for the scenes I had in mind.

In the end it was Twitter that solved my problem. I posted to the effect that I was looking for kinky young men willing to bottom on camera for CP films, and that I was offering competitive rates of pay, creative input and good times. Someone on my feed put me in touch with a friend of theirs. He didn't have a website, but he did have a link to a fetlife profile. I took one look at his photo gallery and was sold.

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Tags: cane, Dreams of Spanking, f-m, female gaze, Jimmy Holloway, m-m, other pictures, otk spanking, photos, porn production, school uniform, Sebastian Hawley, shoot writeups


Spanking360 and male submission

Posted at 11:17 on 9 Sep 2010 by Pandora / Blake

I was intrigued to read on the Cherry Red Report about Audrey Knight's newest spanking project, Spanking360. Bravely, Audrey intends to take a similar approach to the one that I'm working on for my own site - combining F/m, F/f, M/f and (some) M/m under a single umbrella, with carefully calibrated browsing options so that people only see the content they're interested in. Audrey writes,

I dont see much male bottoming on major sites, and always wanted to see a little more. To make sure I keep a good balance of genres, I ran a poll on my blog, asking viewers to choose their top two favorite kinds of spankings (F/F, F/M, etc.) I found that F/F was tied with F/M, to my surprise, with M/F spanking popularity trailing behind, and a 5% vote for M/M spankings.

I know that many male tops are offended by seing male bottoms, so Ive devised a system to separate the male bottoming section from the female bottoming section and will include a tiny bit of non-gay M/M spanking there, too.

I thought I was the only producer considering such a step, so it's exciting and reassuring to me that Audrey agrees that the current norm of total segregation between femsub and malesub content is unnecessary - and thinks that the market will back her up. Here's a clip from her first M/m shoot:

I'm not sure what either of these models are called, but presumably we'll find out when the site goes live.

Seeing as I'm a big old queer who loves perving over two hot blokes together, I'm a little disappointed by the big "non-gay" disclaimers plastered all over the discussions of any M/m content - but I assume that this arises not from any prejudice on Audrey's part, but a simple recognition that some people are still uncomfortable with the idea of seeing two men together in a sexual way. As it happens, I think there's space for a lot more non-sexual M/m spanking content - the only quality material is currently found on gay sites, and so there's a gap in the market for restrained, formal, realistic punishment scenarios between, say, prefect/fag, headteacher/schoolboy, employer/boss or any of those other staples of femsub spanking porn which have no overt sexual interaction. But I wouldn't say no to seeing a little sexy stuff between the boys thrown in as well - and I suspect a lot of women and queer men will agree with me!

In the meantime, I'm excited by the promise of F/m content with a focus on D/s and loving domestic discipline as well as straight punishment:

The tone of this clip has a lot of potential, but I was very disappointed not to see Stefan's face once during the whole trailer. How are we meant to connect to him if we can't see his expression or look into his eyes? I'd have liked to see a little more reaction from Stefan as well, especially during the severe spankings - although we do get a tantalising glimpse of him kicking while OTK.

Of course, Spanking360 also promises loads of more traditional F/f and M/f content, and the list of models on their preview page is already impressive (although sadly excludes the male models featured in the above clips). Quibbles aside, I wish Audrey and her team every success. The more sites like this are prepared to buck the trend and include quality malesub content alongside scenes featuring female spankees, the healthier this industry will be.

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Tags: Audrey Knight, dominance and submission, F-M, Female gaze, Gender politics, M-M, making a scene, Spanking360, Videos


Male Submission Art

Posted at 23:57 on 23 Mar 2010 by Pandora / Blake

I've recently discovered this wonderful blog via my friend Ophelia, whose inability to find sensitive, characterful malesub spanking porn two years ago jumpstarted my ambition to produce a more egalitarian take on the industry.

Male Submission Art offers tasteful images and intelligent commentary of erotic F/m kink. The owner also writes Maybe Maimed, a nuanced, thoughtful and intimate journal of his own submission, including some spot-on political writing on gender egalitarianism within kink. Check out this list of 8 things submissive men want from a dominant partner, a powerful rebuttal of the F/m stereotype of the authoritarian goddess abusing a faceless, snivelling worm.

It's been interesting watching my tastes react to different stimuli over the last few years. Of course my preferences aren't wholly trainable - I don't think I would ever be vanilla no matter how much I limited the media I was exposed to. But certain predilections have proved weak when tested. I used, for example, to "just happen to prefer" women whose bodies were at the skinnier end of the prescribed norm; a preference which persisted as I slowly went through the process of recovery from disordered eating. These days, after working through the inconsistencies in my own thinking; taking care to expose myself to erotic, aesthetically pleasing writing and imagery of fat women; making a point of noticing when the mainstream media exhibits its dysfunctional bias against healthy body shapes, I've finally got over my outdated hang-up about big female bodies. Whole new vistas of beautiful people have been opened up to me! All my current female lovers are bigger than I would, with my culturally narrowed vision, have personally considered sexy three years ago. Now, I look at their lovely curves and wonder how I was so blind as to have skipped over them before.

I'm discovering a similar process arising from my critique of the industry mistreatment of male submissives. I'm not really a switch, and am rarely sexually attracted to men - two male partners fulfil my heterosexual leanings well enough that I don't need to look elsewhere for cock. So I "just happened" to never seek out expressions of male submission, as I didn't consider it to be relevant to my sexuality. Since I realised that it was relevant, to my politics of equality if not to my desires, I've made a point of noticing positive, gender egalitarian representations of male submission.

And you know what? I like it.

When looking at male submission art, I experience a complex, unfamiliar combination of responses. As a submissive I empathise with the sub; I imagine being in his place, looking up at the gorgeous woman who has me in her control. (My recent relaxation in the area of subbing to women has definitely contributed to this.) As a bisexual woman, I enjoy the depiction of a beautiful male body - I imagine its textures, temperatures and scents, the subtle movement of muscles and shivering responsiveness of skin. I wouldn't go so far as to say that I imagine myself in the place of that woman in control. But I definitely find the submissive male beauty she's looking at desirable, and experience a frisson of temptation to play with him, make him react.

I don't think I'm about to turn switch - certainly not with either of my current men, and I don't have much space in my head for new heterosexual entanglements. But it's not impossible, as I grow into a belated, too-slowly-learned desire for vulnerably submissive men, I will discover that my desire for them extends into a new sexual category not covered by my existing relationships, and seek one out.

In the meantime I'll have to content myself with porn. After all, I intend to make some of it myself :)

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Tags: Body positivity, F-M, Fantasies, Female gaze, Gender politics, Jimmy Holloway, learning curves, meta-analysis, other pictures, Politics


boys on film

Posted at 22:01 on 7 Jan 2010 by Pandora / Blake

It's the Thursday morning of New Year's Eve. Tom's got a cold, and he went to bed early last night while Jimmy and I stayed up late, high from the shoot and giggling over rude webcomics. When I come downstairs the next morning Tom's bundled up on the sofa, drinking tea and feeling sorry for himself. I climb into his lap for a cuddle, then smilingly arrange myself over his knee with my elbows folded on the arm of the sofa, allowing him to inspect the damage from yesterday's shoot. He deals me a couple of slow, hard spanks over my knickers, one on each cheek. I ow and wiggle appreciatively.

Halfway through all this, Jimmy comes downstairs. "How are you doing?" Tom asks him, casually rubbing my bottom.

Jimmy looks thoughtful. "I'm fine - I was just waiting for my shocked reaction, you know? And then I realised ... there wasn't going to be one. After yesterday I feel incredibly normalised. It's lovely."

We grinned at him. In my opinion that's one of the best things about shooting; it's pretty cool he got to experience it that quickly.


My aims for this shoot were as follows:

  1. Introduce Jimmy to the experience of filming spanking porn in a safe environment. As well as getting his head around the practical and technical sides of the job, I wanted him to have fun and do some interesting scenes with believable characters without being pushed too hard, or having to do anything he wasn't into.

  2. Play some final, climactic scenes with Zoe before she flew back to Australia.

  3. Realise some of the hot X/mf fantasies I've had brewing for the past few years.

  4. Put my money where my mouth is, and make some socially-conscious, female-gaze, hot boysub porn which people will want to watch.

Personally, I reckon the shoot was a success on all counts. Jimmy certainly seemed to enjoy himself. And I can tell you now: this boy is a star.

The first scene we filmed was called "Taking the Blame", and stole a leaf out of Tom Sawyer's book. Jimmy and I played young friends who were always getting into mischief. They're at the age where although they each have a burgeoning crush on the other, neither dares act on it. When his aunt finds out about their latest scrape, Jimmy gallantly takes the blame - even though Pandora was the culprit on this occasion.

His aunt decides that the most effective way of driving her point home will be to pull down his jeans and boxers, and give him a sound spanking in front of his young friend. My character is embarassed and horrified - these certainly weren't the circumstances in which she'd dreamed about seeing her best friend's naked body! Although Jimmy is frantically signalling to her to keep her mouth shut so their ordeal will be over as soon as possible, she can't bear to watch him take the punishment she deserves. She confesses her guilt, and begs Zoe to punish her instead.

Of course, Zoe intends to do no such thing. One of them has clearly lied to her, and in her opinion they're both as bad as each other. An excruciating tawsing follows, during which both teenagers try to avoid each other's eyes. Afterwards his aunt gives Jimmy a piece of her mind, telling him he thinks he's such a knight in shining armour, trying to impress his little friend - but he ever tries to mess around with his partner-in-crime, Zoe will ensure the two of them never see each other again.

It was a fast-paced scene, and ended up shorter than we expected - a "short sharp shock" to borrow Northern Spanking's phrase. It whizzed by so successfully that we completely forgot to take any stills, so you'll have to wait until my site's online to watch it. Although I might try to post some screenshots after I've tackled the editing...

The second scene was a re-run of a clip I filmed with Zoe a couple of years ago, for a company which never went anywhere. I have to say, it was massively improved by the addition of a good-looking young man.

The Head Girl is shocked to discover that two of her prefects have been conducting a reign of terror under her nose for two whole terms. Prefects are allowed to dish out lines and detentions to younger pupils they catch flouting the school rules, but only the Head Girl and Boy, the teachers and the Headmaster are allowed to administer corporal punishment. Nonetheless, this terrible twosome have been doing exactly that. The Head Girl strips them of their prefect privileges, and decides that the only fair response is to give them a taste of their own medicine.

She punishes them with each of the implements which she has discovered they have used on younger pupils. With each implement, she drags the story out of them. Despite their protests and excuses, they have no choice but to bend over and endure what they have so irresponsibly handed out.

The third scene was an intense fantasy I wrote some time ago. Zoe and Jimmy were my ideal casting for the other two characters, but I wasn't wedded to the idea of doing it on this shoot. It was an edgy, difficult scene to tackle; it involved Jimmy and I switching with each other (which was an enormous challenge, as neither of us are particularly switchy); and I had quite clear ideas about what I wanted, which put a certain amount of pressure on the scene.

When it came to it, though, we were on a roll: we were running not only on time, but (unheard of!) ahead of schedule; the three of us had clicked as well as I'd hoped we would, and our improv was flowing effortlessly; Jimmy and I were both on a high from the previous two scenes, and keen to push the boat out a little.

I haven't looked at the footage yet, so I'll save my comments about how well it went until I've done the editing. But from an actor's, rather than a producer's, point of view, this film was amazing. It was so hot I was actually wet afterwards (slightly weird given Jimmy and I have more of a brother/sister dynamic than a serious flirtation). It was intense and edgy and brilliant. I am so, so glad we did it.

The scenario goes, roughly, like this: a young couple are in detention again for breaking the school's six inch rule. Their teacher has punished them for making out behind the bikesheds, in the broom cupboard and everywhere else countless times - she is sick of the sight of them. She has loads of marking to do, and she honestly doesn't believe that another spanking from her will teach either of them a lesson.

So she comes up with a new approach. Knowing how fond they are of each other, she instructs each of them to spank the other one in turn. If the spanking is insufficiently severe, she will take over and give the victim a sound, no-nonsense over-the-knee spanking that will leave them red and sore. The other will then have to follow suit, and make sure it's hard enough this time - or the whole process will start all over again.

I ended up going over Jimmy's knee twice and Zoe's once, for an excruciatingly fast and painful dose of the hairbrush. By the time it was my turn to spank Jimmy, I knew better than to try and be lenient. But every stroke I dealt him made me wince. I couldn't bear the knowledge I was hurting him. It was tense and squirmy and horrible, and both of us cried, and beneath the character I loved every second of it. I think Jimmy did too :)

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Tags: F-M, Female gaze, Jimmy Holloway, Photos, porn production, shoot writeups, Zoe Montana


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