Spank me

Posted at 01:40 on 7 Feb 2014 by Pandora Blake

My late night fantasies vary a lot, from things that happened that day to things that will never happen, and nor would I want them to. Recently I had a bedtime fantasy which was less escapist than my usual fare; more of an expression of intent. I found myself imagining the scene negotiation I would have with Tom next time we played. Our relationship has been very positive lately, despite being long-distance, but we haven't had much opportunity to connect on a deeper D/S level. We'd planned for him to visit me in January and I felt ready to take things a step further. Initially I was just thinking about what to say, and then I started thinking about the ideal scene we might play. It quickly turned from idle daydreaming to a full-blown masturbation fantasy - and yes, it was hot enough to get me off.

The images in my head were of ceremony, formality. I remembered the scene trappings from our intense-but-unsustainable D/S dynamic when we first got together nine years ago. The sheepskin rug for me to kneel on at the base of the Chesterfield armchair, the leather-padded desk chair with the curved wooden arms, waiting in the centre of the room with its blindfold and restraints. Remembering the delicious, heart-pounding fear as I walked in and saw it, knowing I was about to be caned, knowing it was going to be hard.

I told him about it the next time we talked. The specific formalities of our first D/S dynamic aren't available to us these days - too much emotional baggage - but it was the atmosphere that I yearned for. I also mentioned that I had a new butt plug and was very interested in playing with it, and experimenting with combining it with CP. The idea of thatfair kept me going until he came to visit.

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Tags: anal, dominance and submission, Dreams of Spanking, Fantasies, featured photos, hand spanking, kink, otk spanking, Photos, rough sex, strap, thigh spanking, Thomas Cameron, wooden hairbrush

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Spanking fanfiction

Posted at 16:06 on 12 Nov 2013 by Pandora Blake

Remus writes fanfiction by corilefayLike many women with access to the internet in their teens and early twenties, I am a reader of fanfiction. For a few years of my life it was my primary source of porn - before I discovered how much awesome video porn is out there, anyway. Long before I was old enough, or confident enough to buy site memberships with a credit card, I could read freely available wank material written by fellow fans about characters I knew and loved. Fanfic is safe, it's created by likeminded fans, and best of all to a teenage girl, it's free.

In fact the fanfiction community has several points of overlap with the open source, FOSS and Creative Commons communities, and as a cultural phenomenon I think it's fascinating, and doesn't deserve the juvenile reputation it has in some circles. At its core, fanfiction is an outpouring of sexually explicit fantasy material by young women, written for each other, on their own terms, in their own language. It is a form of media without any commercial interests, undertaken for the love of it. Fanfiction is typically, but by no means exclusively, centred around male/male fantasies. A large, perhaps disproportionate amount of it is kinky. In my opinion it absolutely deserves to be included in the conversation about female gaze or feminist pornography.

I hadn't read much of it for years, spanking video having somewhat dominated my attention in the meantime. Until I noticed that the latest person to join Dreams of Spanking had an email address @ FicWriter.com. Intrigued, I had a look.

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Tags: Dreams of Spanking, F-M, fanfiction, Fantasies, Female gaze, films and TV, M-M

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Justine Elyot, 'Kinky'

Posted at 14:53 on 22 Jan 2013 by Pandora Blake

Kinky by Justine Elyot is an erotic novella recommended to me by both D and, I think, Adele Haze. I grabbed the Kindle versionlast year but only just got around to reading it. I raced through it, staying up late last night to finish it after only two evenings, and lots of orgasms!

It's not long; in fact I think it's just the right length for the story. The narrative is well crafted, with no gratuitous or unnecessary scenes. Each sex scene is integral to the story, and the overall plot is entertaining, and doesn't feel "pasted on" like in some erotica.

The story is set in Shoreditch (an area of London I know rather well) around a fictional underground club/venue called Kinky Cupcake. (These are apparently really a thing. Who knew?) It follows the adventures of two newcomers to kink, shy marketing professional Rosie and adventurous Russian traveller Dimitri. I found myself caring about them and wanting to know what happened next in the story of their relationship, as well as being keen to get to the next kinky sex scene we're promised in each chapter. Overall, this made for a page-turny read. It helps that it's well-written, wry and unpretentious. Elyot's prose is compact and engaging with a light touch.

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Tags: books, Fantasies, Gender politics, reviews

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Caned and figged

Posted at 22:41 on 20 Jan 2013 by Pandora Blake

Fun fact for the day: The word "figging" derives from the 18th century word "feague", which meant "to put ginger or live eels up a horse's backside". The purpose of which was "to make the horse lively and carry his tail well".

Thankfully, it's not live eels but good old ginger that is employed in the new film on my friend Nimue's site Nimue's World; and, of course, on a hapless maidservant rather than a horse. There's an extended free video trailer for this scene which you can watch here.

Kitty knew the rules when she agreed to the job. The Master of the house is very strict when it comes to inappropriate behaviour between his staff, and when he hears that Kitty has been caught in bed with the Butler, he takes matters into his own hands. He doesn't usually get involved in the punishments of the lower staff, but Kitty is young and attractive, and he seizes the chance to take advantage of the poor girl.

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Tags: anal, cane, Fantasies, figging, Nimues World, Sites and studios

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Women's rape fantasies

Posted at 23:36 on 18 May 2012 by Pandora Blake

I read an article today called Women's Sexual Fantasies - the Latest Scientific Research, which describes the results of a research study on 355 young women.

52% of the women had fantasies about forced sex by a man: 32% had fantasies about being raped by a man: 28% - forced oral sex by a man: 16% - forced anal sex: 24% - incapacitated: 17% - forced sex by a woman: 9% - raped by a woman: 9% - forced oral sex by a woman. Overall, 62% reported having had at least one of these fantasies.

Initially, I was reading this with a sort of detached curiosity. Rape fantasies are, after all, one of those fantasies I don't really have; I'd much rather think about spanking. I understand they're quite common, though. Gosh, isn't sexuality interesting? Then I read that paragraph there and remembered that anal rape counts too. Which happens to feature in $mumble of my fantasies. So... yeah. Turns out this study relates directly to me after all.

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Tags: Fantasies, in the news, Kink activism, Politics

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The spanking I crave

Posted at 16:16 on 13 Apr 2012 by Pandora Blake

Earlier this week, I posted the following to Twitter:

The spanking I'm craving today is a hand spanking. Starting gentle, firm but not too stingy; building relentlessly to deeper impacts.

The beating D gave me on Sunday was necessary, valuable. It kept me sane for a couple of days at least. But my tension levels quickly crept up again. By Tuesday I was shifting in my chair, cursing myself for being so high maintenance as to need several spankings a week to manage my emotional state.

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Tags: dominance and submission, Fantasies, hairbrush, kink, otk spanking, Thomas Cameron

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Nice vs good

Posted at 13:24 on 24 Mar 2012 by Pandora Blake

My life is going through another phase of change at the moment - forthcoming house move, attendant financial stresses, trying to get ahead with work to create time for all the practicalities. I'm simultaneously in great need of stress relief spankings, but obviously far too busy and important to have time for them.

Well. Not quite: if my spanker were, say, to stride into my office mid-work, tell me to take off my headphones, flip me over despite my protests that I couldn't possibly take a break right this second, and whack me for a few minutes before disappearing again, that would probably help my state of mind no end. Once I'd recovered from my initial indignance, that is.

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Tags: D, dominance and submission, Fantasies, kink

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Midweek hyperkinks #6

Posted at 00:29 on 8 Mar 2012 by Pandora Blake

I haven't done a hyperkinks post in months - but don't worry, I'm not going to attempt a complete catch up. Just a brief glimpse at some of the interesting and sexy things that have populated the internet in the last couple of weeks.

Kink

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Tags: Chelsea Pfeiffer, Dallas Spanks Hard, Fantasies, Female gaze, Gender politics, Good Spanking, hyperkinks, Janna, Jimmy Holloway, Kami Robertson, Kink activism, Madison Young, Nimue Allen, Northern Spanking, Politics, polyamory, Rosie, Sarah Bright, Sarah Gregory, Spanked in Uniform, Spanking Sarah

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Leather gloves

Posted at 22:52 on 27 Feb 2012 by Pandora Blake

I have this kink for tops wearing leather gloves.

It's about gentility and power. The gloved spanker is protected, removed from you by one crucial layer. When they touch your bare skin, they aren't touched themselves. A leather glove can lend a touch of class, an air of mystery and money.

Or they can designate a brute, a biker, an officer. Military and efficient.

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Tags: dominance and submission, Fantasies, kink, other pictures

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A beginner's guide to spanking

Posted at 00:56 on 17 Jan 2012 by Pandora Blake

First published in FortheGirls.com erotic e-zine for women.

I was eight when I finally summoned up the courage to confide in my best friend. We'd shared all our secrets except one thing, and it felt like it had haunted me forever. Once I'd decided to do it, my heart wouldn't stop pounding. I leaned over the lunch table and whispered, I want to be spanked.

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Tags: Fantasies, how to, kink, Kink activism, Politics

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