While I was staying in Los Angeles with Alex and Paul I was privileged to be present on Korey and James Johnson's first ever spanking shoot. James and Korey are a scene couple whom I have really enjoyed getting to know at spanking parties in the US over the last few years. They are married with a real life domestic discipline dynamic, in which James uses spanking and other forms of corporal punishment to correct Korey if she breaks an agreement they have made, or acts in a way that is detrimental to her own wellbeing.
Neither James nor Korey had ever appeared in a spanking video, although they both certainly have the looks for it. However they are both exhibitionists and scene players who have played a lot at spanking parties, and who both find the experience of playing in front of an audience to be very exciting. Although neither of them is interested in making spanking videos professionally, they decided that they would be interested in trying it together for the sake of the experience.
Last week we spent a lot of time hanging out with our friends James and Korey Johnson. I first met them at the Texas All State Spanking Party in 2012, where we bonded chatting about selling porn, running websites and content management systems. At Boardwalk Badness Weekend last year I was lucky enough to play with Korey on the last night, but disappointingly, I was so sleep-deprived by that stage in the weekend that my accuracy as a top was not up to my usual standards and I wasn't sure I'd made a great first impression.
Still, the friendship was cemented in the UK last autumn when they came to visit and we spent an enjoyable evening hanging out. We didn't play that time, but it turns out that this was due to a miscommunication rather than a lack of interest on either side. Funny how even seasoned spankos can still miss an opportunity because both of you are too shy to ask straight out, "Would you like to play?" Lesson learned - I'll be more direct in future!
Thankfully, Alex Reynolds has no such shyness and as such is an excellent facilitator of play between her friends. We all had fun during James and Korey's stay in LA, and some of it was even captured on camera. Alex has written an in-depth shoot report on the Northern Spanking forum.
A couple of weeks ago I was invited to speak at Gender Sex London on the topic of the female gaze in kinky porn, alongside male performer Michael Darling. It was a great evening, with a really positive reception and lots of thoughtful contributions from those who attended. You can read a storify of live tweets from the evening here.
I'll post the text of my one-hour talk in two parts.
I haven't done a hyperkinks post in months - but don't worry, I'm not going to attempt a complete catch up. Just a brief glimpse at some of the interesting and sexy things that have populated the internet in the last couple of weeks.
I told you about my first spanking of 2012. The day before, I was lamenting my unspanked state and wondering how long I had to wait. By the end of that weekend, I'd been spanked so many times I lost count.
The occasion was Paul and Lucy's housewarming party, a grand occasion full of kinky friends, familiar faces and new people. Not everyone worth knowing was there, but everyone there was worth knowing. It's a rare scene event where I feel truly comfortable with all the people in the room.
Tom had originally hoped to accompany me, but when he was laid low with a cold I decided I couldn't miss this one - I'd go on my own. I knew that people would be playing, and I was fairly sure I wanted to join in given the opportunity. But I'm not used to going out without a spanker if I want to play, not least because I'm quite picky about who I play with. I was interested in a couple of prospects, but I wasn't sure if it was mutual, if they'd be available, and it's always an effort negotiating this sort of thing without offending anyone you don't want to play with.
There's been a photoset going up on Northern Spanking over the last few weeks which I first blogged about a month ago. It's called 'Pandora and the Tutor', and is of interest not only for its evocative Blushes-era atmosphere, but because when the first update came out I was astonished - for the first time ever, I had apparently genuinely forgotten about a scene. I had no memory of shooting those pictures at all.
The thing is that I hadn't forgotten shooting all of it. I'd only forgotten the first half, upstairs, in which the tutor scolds me, spanks me over his knee, and forces me to adopt undignifying positions over a chair for further punishment. This isn't an ordinary detention - it's prolonged, horrible, a Friday night when everyone else has gone home, alone with this awful old man* with no way of knowing how far it's going to go, and no way to stop him.
*Michael Stamp is brilliant really, and not actually very old, despite the receding hairline.
Northern Spanking have just released an unusual new film called The Travelling Disciplinarian and the Novelist. This film is remarkable in a number of ways.
It stars the now-retired Niki Flynn in footage that has never been released before. Ms Flynn also co-wrote the scenario.
Adding to the "spankee gaze" credentials of this scene, the other writer was Amelia Jane Rutherford, who also produced and directed it for Spoilt Ladies Spanked, a project which never went live. After this shoot, Amelia decided she wasn't suited to having executive responsibility of a spanking site and far preferred to work for other people.
In a testament to how very lovely Amelia is, she donated the footage to Northern Spanking after their troubles a couple of years ago when they were maliciously "outed" by a local paper and Paul lost his job as a result. So we get to see it anyway, and Northern Spanking got some awesome extra films to help relieve the pressure in their time of need. How brilliant is that? You can read Paul's comments about this geneous gesture here, and I think it speaks volumes about the supportive and open-hearted example Paul and Lucy themselves have set.
The Spoilt Ladies Spanked project seems to have very much been a reaction against the schoolgirl-tastic state of the spanking film scene, and an attempt to add a bit of diversity, sophistication and elegance. I was really looking forward to seeing the fruits of this endeavour, and The Travelling Disciplinarian and the Novelist does not disappoint.
The variable publishing pace of porn production takes some getting used to. As a performer, the rate you work at bears little relation to the rate at which you are published. A month in which you do tonnes of shoots might be one in which no websites release any of your work - and vice versa. Scenarios you filmed years ago and have almost forgotten about might suddenly surface; but sometimes photos or videos go up the week after the shoot, far sooner than you expected. And films which you put your whole heart into and are desperate to share with the world might spend years in post-production.
Although I'm not modelling much for other studios at the moment, only for my own site, a lot of work I did in the last few years seems to be appearing lately. Recent website updates have included an interesting mix of new and old shoots...
Here is the text and video recording of my talk at German fetish advocacy conference BDSMtag. Many thanks to Ludwig for asking the interview questions and providing many interesting conversations about BDSM, society and politics over the course of the weekend.
The first minute and a half of the video is Ludwig's introduction to the German speaking audience, but the rest of the video is in English.
It's a problem familiar to many of us. How to indulge in sexy kinky shenanigans when you have housemates, without either dying of embarrassment or making them die of embarrassment, lose their sleep, or make bumping into them in the kitchen even more awkward than usual?
I'm currently living in my fourth house share since leaving university, and I seem to have got on fairly well in that time. I've always been pretty blazé about my sexuality, though, so if you are more inclined to crippling self-consciousness about all things sex or kink-related, my perspective may not be very useful. Still, I've had enough experience juggling play partners and housemates to be able to offer some basic advice. (This guide omits Method 0: Don't give a fuck.)