We’re coming into Autumn, and my schedule shows no sign of relenting. The Dreams of Spanking team is growing every day with new editors, cast and crew members, and it is so rewarding to see this group sharing my passion for the site I launched from my kitchen table so many years ago.
Growing into my switch self – Perhaps the biggest impact that making porn has had on my sexuality is that it gave me a reason to start switching.
Porn & Patriarchy: the challenges of casting male performers - I'm not short of offers. The sticky bit is finding guys who meet my criteria. I'm not asking much, or at least I don't think I am: there are thousands of women and femmes who fit the bill. And yet, there's a real dearth of masc-presenting cuties who tick all my boxes.
UK porn censorship: part 1 - The government forcing me to censor myself and hide my sexuality is repressive. If I co-operated I would be complicit. Instead, I decided to take a stand.
Dreams of Spanking Scenes
Landlady’s Reparation // F/F film // Nimue Allen, Pandora Blake - Another month’s rent is due, but this time landlady Nimue Allen has a confession to make: how will her tenant Pandora Blake react when the tables are turned?
I Watched my Boyfriend’s Judicial Strapping // Solo F film // Pandora Blake - When the judge ordered a strapping for Pandora Blake’s boyfriend, he thought it would teach them both a lesson. Little did he know how hot they’d end up finding it...
Sunday School // M/F film // Becci Belacqua, Stephen Lewis - Goth brat turned subby schoolgirl Rebecca Belacqua doesn’t know what she's letting herself in for when she books tuition with Stephen Lewis. Can strict rules and a whippy cane reform her in just one day
Defying Dominance // F/M film // Carlos Green, Pandora Blake - Carlos Green has been out too late and forgotten to text - and girlfriend Pandora Blake is not amused. Clearly, it’s time to remind him who the boss around here is!
Okay, it’s been a minute. It has been a whirlwind summer: lockdown easing brought increased film shoots, more social engagements, and my return to sessions after a 3-year hiatus! Here are some of my favourite releases from this summer.
Chapter 4 - Have You Tried Just Not Having Them? – Curating our fantasies for greater enjoyment, deeper self-exploration, and more intentional storytelling can be immensely rewarding. But suppressing whole swathes of our erotic theme out of shame? It’s unlikely to work - and if it does, it’ll do more harm than good.
The spanking fetish around the world - Every country on the globe contains humans who find shame, fear and aggression to be arousal intensifiers. But that doesn’t mean that their erotic fantasies will all be the same. The culture and history of a particular country also plays a part.
Mark April in your calendars as the month that Dreams of Spanking started to release high-quality multi-performer films three times a month! It’s the fullest schedule we’ve had since we returned from hiatus and I couldn’t be happier. Any fears I had about delegating have proved entirely fictional, as the team of freelancers around me are the reason we're able to put out so much new content.
To say March has been madness would be putting it lightly. Between arranging film shoots and night weaning, I’m in a state of chronic sleep deprivation. Editing footage and writing have been squeezed in around parenting, and I still managed to do all this!
Chapter 2 - Is it just me? – I thought I was the only person in existence to eroticise spanking. I was eleven years old when I first discovered that other people did too.
This One Weird Trick - It’s been a long, locked-down winter, and a month ago I was feeling crappy: slow, sluggish and permanently overtired. I’m doing a hell of a lot better now than I was, and I wanted to talk a bit about why.
For such a short month, I sure have been busy in February! I got high-quality speakers for Christmas and have been spending a lot of my time perfecting the sound on every film and audio story. I’m self-taught in almost everything I do, and I get a lot of satisfaction from adding another skill to my arsenal.
I ran a promotion to mark 2021 and a renewed commitment to the slogan Shame Less - kick sexual stigma and fight for social justice. All patrons who signed up by Valentine’s Day would receive an exclusive Shame Less pin. The beautiful enamel pins are in the post to their new owners as I type, and I can’t wait to see people condemning kink shaming all over the world.
Got Wood? Using the Ruler for Spanking – Me and my school uniform are here today to tell you about an implement which I have had a very changing relationship with over the years. It is the wooden ruler.
The first time I read about caning - As I'm revising my book manuscript, a lot of material is going on the cutting-room floor - and I'm sharing some of it with you, lovely Patrons.
How Long Do The Spanking Marks Last? – One of the questions that people often ask me is how long does it take my bottom to recover after doing a spanking scene, either in my personal life or in film. The answer might surprise you.
As we fall into the rhythm of a weekly schedule, I continue to be amazed by the benefits involved in working with a team. I can delegate, I can communicate my limitations - essentially, I can take a day off and know that the ship will keep sailing! Here are the updates we released to you lovely people this month:
I am no stranger to the difficulties of a long-distance relationship. I now live with my long-term partner and child, but there was a large chunk of my life where I lived alone and travelled to see my partners. Sometimes it was a bus ride, and sometimes a long train journey.
I've learned a lot and I'm still continuing to learn - the pandemic has introduced new obstacles for us to overcome, and has forced us to come up with ever more creative ways to stay connected. Particularly as spankophiles, it can be challenging to feel close to your partner when your usual way to connect is taking them over your lap. As Erica Scott puts it, we have a fetish that is not exactly conducive to social distancing.
For my contribution, I spoke about the importance of communicating about your communication. This may sound redundant, but you would be surprised how quickly dialogue can break down when you're operating in a medium that one party isn't comfortable using.
Now I'm pregnant, I wanted to talk about the complexities of being trans, non-binary, and having a big bump - not to mention a bigger chest... As if that wasn't complicated enough, I'm also a sex worker. I couldn't find many resources about being non-binary and pregnant, never mind a non-binary pregnant sex worker, so I thought I'd put something out there. Well, I don't know if I can call this a "resource", it's mostly me talking about why things are VERY CONFUSING in my head right now, but if you're in the same situation hopefully it'll show you're not alone (hiiii) and if you're not trans or not pregnant, maybe it will give you a bit of an insight into what it's like.