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Processing the experience

Posted at 13:21 on 8 Mar 2013 by Pandora / Blake

The Pervocracy have a fantastic post up about the different skills involved in bottoming/submission, and the ways in which a bottom actively engages with the process. The whole post is spot on, including skills such as knowing your own desires and limits and being able to effectively communicate them, being safety aware, giving good feedback, subtly helping the scene along with your physical movements, and being attentive to the fact that tops need aftercare too.

All the practical stuff is excellent advice, but my favourite section of the post was the skills that was hardest to explain: "process the experience".

This is the internal work of bottoming, and I don't know what I'm going to write in this section, because it's... magic or neurology or something. Also a lot of deep breathing. This is where you take in pain, discomfort, fear, and/or humiliation, and you turn them into something wonderful for yourself. And very often it is an effort. It can take focus and intention to turn a spanking from "my butt hurts, ow, my butt hurts again" to "my butt hurts in a way that is giving me the most amazing pleasure." Or when it isn't pleasure, "my butt hurts and I am strong and I am taking it." It's almost a kind of meditation.

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Tags: cane, dominance and submission, kink, Kink activism

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Lost Causes: out now!

Posted at 22:43 on 4 Mar 2013 by Pandora / Blake

Exciting news! Lost Causes, the Edwardian film by Rou starring Adele Haze, Thomas Cameron and myself, is now available to purchase on DVD.

Working as a producer/director team alongside the Rou crew, Tom and I wrote the script based on characters from our previous Rou production; fin de sicle finishing school lesbian Miranda Somerville and her dancing instructor and master of discipline, Thomas Cameron (Tom originally took his screen name from this character).

Lost Causes - Roue Productions Lost Causes - Roue Productions

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Tags: Adele Haze, bloomers, cane, Edwardian, featured photos, historical, Performers and producers, Photos, Roue, tawse, Thomas Cameron

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Stripes

Posted at 23:17 on 31 Jan 2013 by Pandora / Blake

This is my bottom last night, after a school caning roleplay in the afternoon.

I was caught slipping gin into the punch at the sixth form Summer Ball. The Housemaster told me to meet him immediately in the staffroom, and I made my way there nervously, still in my cocktail dress and high heels. As he scolded me it began to dawn on me what a silly mistake I'd made. He told me to bend over for a few whacks right there and then, just in case I hadn't already sobered up, I think. Then I was given a choice.

I would have to be caned, no doubt about it. When the Governors found out about this they'd need to be reassured that it had been properly dealt with, and they knew how damaging it would be to my academic career to be expelled just before exams.

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Tags: cane, featured photos, kink, Photos, Roleplay, school uniform

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Caned and figged

Posted at 22:41 on 20 Jan 2013 by Pandora / Blake

Fun fact for the day: The word "figging" derives from the 18th century word "feague", which meant "to put ginger or live eels up a horse's backside". The purpose of which was "to make the horse lively and carry his tail well".

Thankfully, it's not live eels but good old ginger that is employed in the new film on my friend Nimue's site Nimue's World; and, of course, on a hapless maidservant rather than a horse. There's an extended free video trailer for this scene which you can watch here.

Kitty knew the rules when she agreed to the job. The Master of the house is very strict when it comes to inappropriate behaviour between his staff, and when he hears that Kitty has been caught in bed with the Butler, he takes matters into his own hands. He doesn't usually get involved in the punishments of the lower staff, but Kitty is young and attractive, and he seizes the chance to take advantage of the poor girl.

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Tags: anal, cane, Fantasies, figging, Nimues World, Sites and studios

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Date night with Tom

Posted at 23:46 on 14 Jan 2013 by Pandora / Blake

I'm missing Tom a lot tonight. It's my own fault, of course: I was wondering why his phone kept going straight to voicemail when I remembered that I hadn't posted his phone charger back to him after he left it here last Thursday. Oops.

So while I've got some time to kill and I'm thinking of him, I'll tell you about our date last Wednesday. Tom and I are still doing the long-distance thing. It sucks, but at least I can pretty much guarantee that we'll play on the occasions when we do get together. And my lovely new flat (all to myself, alleluia!) is well-suited to nice long scenes without having to worry about housemates. The gaps between times tend to result in a nice variety of play too, as time passes and we find ourselves into the mood for different things.

He came down for the evening. I'd cooked a nice meal (grilled tuna steak and lots of fresh veg) and we snuggled in front of a film. Then I practically dragged him to the bedroom. Well. Maybe he dragged me there. One or the other.

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Tags: cane, dominance and submission, hand spanking, kink, strap, Thomas Cameron

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TASSP - a day of demonstrations

Posted at 23:06 on 6 Jul 2012 by Pandora / Blake

Part 1: Texas: pre-party shooting Part 2: TASSP: first night

Perhaps it was jet lag, perhaps it was nerves, but despite my short night's sleep I woke up at 6am on Friday, the first day proper of the Texas All State Spanking Party, and couldn't get back to sleep. At 10am that morning I was due to give my first ever kink demonstration on Erotic Spanking with Princess Kelley, and I hadn't had much time to think about it. Once I was awake my brain started whirring and thinking of all the things I could say.

The demo was to be fully nude - a cunning gimmick dreamed up by Kelley to lure partygoers out of bed - so at 7.30am I gave up on getting back to sleep and got up to shower and shave. Amelia and I sneaked next door into the abandoned party room to do our make up so we wouldn't disturb our roommates, and ventured downstairs to find breakfast.

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Tags: Amelia Jane Rutherford, cane, Dana Specht, featured photos, kink, Paul Rogers, Performers and producers, Photos, Princess Kelley, Sarah Gregory, school uniform, Shay Elizabeth, switching, TASSP, Ten Amorette

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A goodbye caning

Posted at 10:25 on 6 Jun 2012 by Pandora / Blake

The other weekend I visited Tom for what I expected would be a couple of days of cathartic play. I'd had the week from hell and had spent most of it in desperate need of some domination and soul-cleansing.

The way it worked out, I had a shoot all day on the Saturday, then I jumped on a train and Tom and I went straight out to a gig. With that sort of schedule I was either going to crash or stay hyper, and it turned out to be the latter. The music was outstanding, we had an amazing, high-energy night, and collapsed straight into bed. The next day I was eager to spend some time enjoying the sunshine I'd been missing all week (this was that blinding first UK week of summer; hopefully not our last!) so we headed to the park. A few hours dozing in the sun, reading and listening to Tom play guitar was the perfect antidote to my stressful week. I unwound, uncoiled.

Home, and we both wanted to play; but I discovered an contentedness where my tense need had been. The sunbeam had done its work, leaving me catlike and purring. I thought I might be able to chase sensations for their own sake, but when I asked Tom to spank me I just found myself gritting my teeth through it. I could take it, but I wasn't having fun. I insisted we try again, thinking that I didn't have to enjoy it at the time to enjoy the stress relief benefits, but the weekend and Tom's company had already done their work; I wasn't in need of stress relief any more.

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Tags: cane, dominance and submission, featured photos, kink, Photos, Thomas Cameron

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Sarah Sly, Private Eye

Posted at 22:21 on 28 Mar 2012 by Pandora / Blake

Spanking Sarah have just released the first scene I shot with them in Feburary! It's episode three of the ongoing series Sarah Sly, Private Eye.

The ongoing series are one of my favourite things about Spanking Sarah, although it's a website with many good qualities. (My other favourite things include the imaginative storylines, the sense of fun, the fusion of disciplinary spanking, sensual CP and occasional explicit sex, and the emphasis on Sarah's personality and fantasies.) I know that Sarah's partner and co-owner Mr Stern, the webmaster of English Spankers, has wanted to make a TV-style private investigator series with spanking for years, and it's great to see him finally having the chance to explore the idea through his partnership with Sarah Bright.

In this episode Sarah Sly is hired by a parent to investigate a teacher at their child's school, who is alleged to have punished the child inappropriately, as only the headmaster is allowed to administer corporal punishment. It was a fun scene: I enjoy the chance to play a teacher rather than a schoolgirl occasionally, and I liked getting to be a bit more grownup and professional, but still get whacked in the end.

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Tags: cane, otk spanking, Performers and producers, Photos, Sarah Bright, Spanking Sarah

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Double canings

Posted at 21:58 on 21 Mar 2012 by Pandora / Blake

I love double canings. I didn't get many at all the first few years I was playing, but apparently the more people I get to know in the scene the more likely they become. Here are some people I have received double canings from:

  • Tom and HH
  • Abel and Haron
  • Tom and D (best double caning EVER for obvious reasons)
  • Mrs Darling and Miss Hammond-Grant AKA Lucy McLean and Amy Hunter (close runner-up to best ever: advantage of one left-hand, one right-hand, also two ladies = win)
  • Tom and Hywel Phillips

People I have not received double canings from but would like to:

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Tags: cane, kink, Triple A Spanking

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Reader's photos #2

Posted at 13:52 on 23 Feb 2012 by Pandora / Blake

Today's blogpost is brought to you by another reader with a taste for the ritual and atmosphere of school punishment roleplay.

My mistress and I occasionally indulge in a public school style beating whereupon I am summoned to the prefects' common room, instructed to bend over a plain wooden chair, and given six of the best with a chalked cane by the head of house (in this case a girl with a fine wrist action!). I am then instructed to get up, lower my trousers and pants and bend over again. With the tip of the cane she flicks my coat-tails clear once more and gives me a further six.

The first six are evenly spread over my bottom, but the last are concentrated in the middle. The photos doesn't really do the marks justice, which are dark, well-defined tramlines.

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Tags: cane, kink, readers photos, school uniform

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