Posts Tagged ‘rant’

Why opt-in filters for “adult content” are misguided and dangerous

Last week, the government unveiled a deal with four of the UK’s biggest internet service providers – BT, Sky, TalkTalk and Virgin, collectively comprising about 90% of the market – which will oblige new subscribers to “opt in” if they want to view web content which has been categorised as sexually explicit.

I wrote about this in December last year when the Tory proposals were first publicised. This is part of a large-scale campaign against the so-called “sexualisation of children” which include such regressive proposals as Nadine Dorries’ sexist plans for abstinence-based sexual education for teenage girls, and which collectively poses a significant threat to fans of sexual freedom, civil liberties and digital rights.

In June this year the government-commissioned Bailey Report was published by the Chief Executive of the Mother’s Union, a Christian charity, in conjunction with the Department of Education. Dr Brooke Magnanti wrote an excellent critique of the dodgy evidence used to substantiate the anti-porn agenda back in May, which also revealed the extent to which the whole programme has been fueled by the American Christian far-right:

Looking deeper, the ‘research’ turns out to be The Social Costs of Pornography: A Collection of Papers. It includes contributions from such notables as Patrick Fagan from the Family Research Council, a far-right American lobbying organisation. Fagan also works with the Heritage Foundation, once considered the architects of the Reagan administration’s covert Cold War operations, and active supporters of George W Bush’s international policy. Fagan’s other recent papers include “Virgins Make the Best Valentines” and “Why Congress Should Ignore Radical Feminist Opposition to Marriage”.

The whole anti-sexualisation campaign plays to a crowd which is prudishly suspicious of the adult creative industries. Feminist pornographer Anna Span points out that not only can access to porn have a positive impact on people and society, but that blocking commercial porn sites won’t stop teenagers from viewing it anyway, as (not having credit cards) they tend to access porn through filesharing rather than paying for it. Creating an adult pornsite blacklist will only penalise the legitimate producers, she argues:

If the government wants to stop children from accessing porn, all it needs to do is to listen to the world’s adult industries (who are united with everyone else in wanting to prevent underage access). We say they need to take down the (handful of) porn torrent sites, which give teenagers free, easy access to hardcore scenes – scenes whose copyright has been stolen from the producers.

As I wrote last year, it’s not only adult paysites that stand to be caught by the filter, but crowd-sourced sites such as Tumblr, hosted blog sites, LGBT and sexual education resources. The problem is the lack of democratic process and transparency in the creation of these blacklists, which rest entirely in the hands of the private sector.

Tech journalist Violet Blue sums up the problems with the proposals as follows:

I refuse to overlook the fact that each ISP has not revealed what is on these blacklists, while at the same time they have all made it clear that their filtering blacklists contain websites beyond the scope of adult pornography. Nor have they defined pornography. [...]

With the UK conservative government electing to put the onus on the private sector and avoid a public legislative smackdown – and a particularly charged on over the evils of pornography – this has produced a situation where there is a frightening lack of technical and peer scrutiny of the mechanisms being employed.

Cory Doctorow points out that many “adult content” filters include gambling and dating sites; crowd-sourced content sites like Livejournal are included in some filters and not others; and finally that the internet is simply too damn big and constantly evolving for any filter to be kept accurate and up-to-date. A US 2003 investigation found 78-85% of sites included on adult content filters for schools and libraries were miscategorised, with tens of thousands of child-safe educational resources blocked by mistake. He writes that parents who choose not to opt their families out of the default filter

… are in for a nasty shock: first, when their kids (inevitably) discover the vast quantities of actual, no-fooling pornography that the filter misses; and second, when they themselves discover that their internet is now substantially broken, with equally vast swathes of legitimate material blocked.

Quite aside from the dodgy religious agenda and bad research behind these proposals and the technical problems with their implementation, they pose a massive threat to the sexual education the internet has facilitated over the last two decades. How many of us first came to an understanding and acceptance of our kink online? Members of the pre-internet generation often tell me that they envy those of us who grew up with access to the internet, who were able to inform, educate and reassure ourselves about our sexualities before getting trapped in vanilla marriages or spending years thinking our tastes meant we were sinful, freakish or mad.

Any top-down attempt to control public access to information is regressive; and no censorship of this kind has ever survived in the long term. We need to fight against the mindset that thinks this is a fair price to pay to prevent children from encountering sex too soon, and which thinks that blanket governmental controls can replace attentive parenting and common sense.

Why the “Horrible Bosses” adverts make me jaw-grindingly angry

I’ve seen these adverts on the Tube recently (or very similar ones: the London version has the word “nympho” instead of “maneater”.) They’re for a film which will be showing soon in the UK, and the marketing campaign is aggressive. I’m even seeing promoted tweets about it turn up in my Twitter feed. So far, every ad I’ve seen has made me angry. My anger is half at the film itself (which is perhaps not fair to judge before I’ve watched it), and half at the way it’s being marketed.

Perhaps ranting about sexism in Hollywood is shooting at fish in a barrel. It is so endemic in the industry that scripts which don’t follow the trend are rejected or edited based on questionable assumptions about what the “audience” wants. These biased, self-justifying expectations remind me of the trend in heterosexual porn not to focus on male bodies or personalities, or male/male eroticism. The “audience” doesn’t want to see it. But if only low-budget, indie productions are taking the risk, how can we make a fair assessment? At the grassroots level, most people you meet aren’t particularly bothered one way or the other. They accept whatever they are brought up to expect. If we make more options available, the next generation of viewers will probably accept that diversity. And that will have a knock-on effect on cultural expectations which can only be positive.

Which is why I feel it’s important to call sexist films and marketing out where we see it. They are everywhere, they are normalised, and people tune them out. Which means they tune sexism out in real life, too. In order to promote a more equal and fair society, we need to get used to noticing it when we see it.

So why are the Horrible Bosses adverts so egregious? Well, off the top of my head…

1. ‘Sex-crazed nympho’? This is still a valid category? I thought it went out of date with, you know, the advent of modern psychology and ‘hysteria’ as a common medical diagnosis. Female sexuality has historically been pathologised and punished. Women considered overly sexually active were institutionalised and tortured. These days, sexually active women are rarely presented as positive role-models. Double standards abound when comparing attitudes towards sexually active men and sexually active women. It is not considered acceptable for women to be sexually forward, sexually dominant or promiscuous. Using this stereotype as the base for a “horrible boss” monsters active female sexuality, presenting it as abnormal, unpleasant and dangerous.

Its assumed abnormality and ridiculousness is also demonstrated by the fact that this is a comedy. Women who actively enjoy and seek sex are HILARIOUS. Can you imagine a comedy which hangs on the image of a promiscuous straight man? No, because there’s nothing unusual or strange about it. The comedy arises from the “weirdness”, from the fact that this is not a behaviour which is normalised or accepted.

2. Okay, so sexual abuse is funny now, too? I mean, the above point notwithstanding, this isn’t a film about a woman going out and getting some hot consensual action, it’s about a boss persistently sexually abusing and assaulting their employee to the point of rape. LMAO! Wow, I can’t think of anything funnier than having to go into work every day knowing your boss will grope you, sexually humiliate you, touch you inappropriately, constantly make sexually invasive comments, lock you in with them, expose themselves to you, and violate your physical boundaries long after you have told them “no”. Funny funny funny!

Let’s imagine that the genders are reversed. This wouldn’t be a comedy. It would be a dark, distressing, violent story about someone trapped in a situation of ongoing abuse and seeking revenge.

3. It’s not like the awfulness of Aniston’s character’s behaviour isn’t acknowledged by the script. But in just the same way that mainstream discussions of sexual and abuse and domestic violence often invisible the experiences of male victims, in the same way that news media handle incidences of sexual abuse or rape by a female against a male very differently than when the perpetrator is male, representations of female sexual abusers in entertainment rarely take the idea seriously. Casting Jennifer Aniston, an actor who has made a career out of playing non-threatening, funny, sexually appealing characters, is perhaps the biggest clue here. The response isn’t meant to be “Fuck, that’s absolutely horrible, I can’t imagine how distressing that must be”, but “Phwoar! I wouldn’t mind some of that!”

Just as the female boss’s abusive behaviour is not taken seriously, neither is the victim’s suffering. His constant unhappy faces and scrambling out of the way are framed as just as much a source of comedy as his boss’s pushy “seductions”. You’re meant to laugh at his misery and helplessness, because male victims of sexual abuse are funny. After all, it’s not like he’s really being mistreated, is it? I mean, who wouldn’t want to be locked in an office with Jennifer Aniston dressed like that? “Sexy lady boss” is an old a trope in porn as “sexy lady teacher”. Not quite as old as “sexy schoolgirl” or “sexy secretary”, perhaps, but still two of the original models for female tops or strong female characters in porn. The film is intended to amuse and titillate, because sexual abuse of men by women is still treated as amusing and titillating.

As TV Tropes puts it,

Rape Is OK When Its Female On Male: It’s hard to say what the film’s position on this is—Julia’s actions are clearly portrayed as bad, but they’re also Played for Laughs, and nobody takes Dale’s situation seriously.

The general audience’s position on this seems to be a firm Rape Is Awesome When It’s Jennifer Aniston.

4. Contrary to the impression given by the above adverts, the film is actually a story about three horrible bosses. Two of them are male – one a power-hungry psychopath, the other a racist, incompetent tool. If you google, you see plenty of posters giving each of the three storylines equal space. And yet, none of those posters seem to have been used in the UK campaign. I hadn’t even realised that the film had three storylines until I started googling for the picture at the top of this post. None of the other two storylines appear in the above video trailer. Why?

Because the sexual assault/rape storyline is the sexiest, with a sexy lady, and as everyone knows, sex sells, regardless of whether it’s consensual.

Erotic asphyxiation: treatments of kink in therapy and the media

Just before Christmas, Dr Petra Boynton called my attention to a worrying article in Psychologies magazine (remember, the one which supplied the bad science which has been used to justify the idea of a UK opt-in system for online porn). This nuanced piece of journalism, entitled “Erotic asphyxiation — why do people do it?” springboarded [...]

UK porn ban?

A month ago, Tory MP Claire Perry called for British ISPs to implement an “opt-in” system for internet pornography based on age verification, to prevent under 18s from looking at sexually explicit content online, because she believed that “British internet service providers should share the responsibility to keep our children safe.” Fortunately for us, culture [...]

a wee rant about size

As you’ll have already gathered, I’ve put on weight lately, and I have mixed feelings about it. My weight has always fluctuated a lot – I have different jeans for different times of the month – but I’ve gone from a size 8-10 to a 12-14 in the last few months, and a lot of [...]

M/m and gender equality in spanking porn

I saw the link to Indy‘s thought-provoking article on twitter this morning, but didn’t have a chance to read it until I took a break from work at lunchtime. In the meantime, however, my brain was already firing up with my own thoughts on this topic – many of which you are already familiar with. [...]

arousal is not consent

If you’re a woman and you’re raped in the UK, chances are your rapist will get away with it. Nationally, on average only 5.6% of reported rapes result in convictions. While more rape survivors are reporting their rapes than in previous decades, far fewer rapists are successfully prosecuted. This morning, this state of affairs reached [...]

bodies and politics

My friend who has spent several years working with urban sex workers pointed me at a couple of heated discussions about sex work lately. Of course, conversations about sex work are often heated, mostly because not enough of the people participating in public debate seem to understand that it’s just as unhelpful to generalise about [...]

Celebrating bisexuality

Today is International Celebrate Bisexuality Day! Ideally, I would celebrate my bisexuality by having kinky sex with a small selection of my favourite bisexual boys, girls and people inbetween, but I’m going out drinking with a big selection of them instead. Which is almost as good.

I first identified as bisexual when I was thirteen, nearly half my life ago. For the two years before that I was very confused: I knew I was utterly smitten with my female best friend, but I also knew, in a naive pubescent way, that there was no reason I might not choose a man as my life partner some day if I met the right guy. Then I discovered the concept of bisexuality (possibly on the Internet, but probably in one of the erotic books for women that my mum failed to successfully hide from me) and everything made much more sense.

When my relationship with my best friend developed into a sexual one, I became swept up in the full flush of first love. Clearly, my love and I were fated to be together forever. Clearly, therefore, I must be gay. I believed this until I entered the sixth form, at which point all the mean, spotty boys I knew started growing into tall, handsome young men. I realised I’d been bisexual all along, I just hadn’t ever fancied teenage boys. Which is, you know, fair enough.

Peter from Bi Social News has written an excellent article asking: what is it that bisexuals have to celebrate? He answers his own question:

Bisexuality is an invitation to complexity. There is no coloring in between the lines with bisexuality because there are no lines to color in between. The world is open to us. What matters here then is defining an ethical code of our own. In other words, an invitation to complexity is an imperative to critical thinking and making reasoned choices. … Bisexuality exists as both potential and realization always, especially if you are monogamous.

Being bisexual is emotionally intense and intellectually demanding, because it requires constant engagement and evaluation as part of the package. When we bisexuals live up to the challenge, we show healthy models for human relations and that’s what we should be aiming for.

I am proud to be bisexual. It opens up limitless possibilities and models for relationships, sex, love. I am blessed to be able to enjoy the romantic and erotic company of men, women, and those inbetween. Because my interest is not limited to the cisgendered, I prefer the word queer to describe my own sexuality: I do not consider gender to be a binary, and I am not only attracted to those at the extreme ends of the spectrum. But for today, I’m happy to identify as bisexual, and celebrate that fact.

Today is necessary, not just as a love-fest for those of us similarly inclined, but to challenge the many problems our culture has with bisexual invisibility and prejudice. The LGBT movement has gained increasing force in the last few decades, but too often bisexuals are excluded from the language of LGBT rights, or shunned by individuals trying to reinforce their black-and-white view of the world. While the entertainment industry has started to admit the existence of real gay men and women, bisexual characters are almost never recognised in films and TV. Bisexuality is rarely mentioned in politics or public conversations about LGBT rights. Our culture has very few models for healthy bisexuality, and (perhaps as a result) stereotypes and prejudice abound. We are accused of indecision (‘staying on the fence’; ‘not making up your mind’), greed (‘wanting our cake and eating it’), disloyalty, betrayal and lack of solidarity. We are told we lack self-awareness and emotional maturity (‘you’ll grow out of it’; ‘you’re just going through a phase’). Too often, our identity is denied and erased from public perception.

I’m preaching to the choir here: the kink scene is unusually aware and accepting of the range of human sexuality, and I’m sure you all already know this stuff. So I’ll get off the soapbox, and finish up my mini-celebration of being queer with some bisexual spanking photos.

This is Leia-Ann Woods, Honey Hardy, Jadie Reece and Stephen Lewis all looking gorgeous in Northern Spanking‘s recent high-definition film Girls’ Night In, beautifully photographed by Billy. The ladies are having fun enjoying each other when Leia’s hubby walks in, catching them in the act of admiring and appreciating one another’s bottoms. Well, what do you expect the man to do? Spank them, of course!

Happy International Celebrate Bisexuality Day, everyone. To all my fellow queers, I hope you have heaps of fun celebrating your sexuality in whatever way you prefer. Here’s to embracing the power of ‘and’. :)

gaming industry in sexism shocker

The weekend just gone was San Diego Comic Con, the annual international gathering for geeks and gamers. EA Games ran a competition to promote their new game, Dante’s Inferno; I found out about this courtesy of top geeky news site Ars Technica. So EA Games had a booth at Comic Con launching the game. The [...]

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