When I first came out as non-binary I realised something strange. By coming out as genderqueer, I was telling all the people who have ever been attracted to me in porn or in person that they aren't straight after all: they're queer. Usually, people get to define their own sexuality, but sorry - that's just how it is. I'm not a woman and I'm not a man, so whatever your gender, if you fancy me, you're queer now too. Congratulations!

If you're straight, look away now because this new video with Nimue Allen is the gayest thing I have ever made.

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The #metoo movement is just getting started. Lately it seems that every time I come online, I see more excellent articles discussing the gendered dynamics and inequalities of sex, pleasure and consent. This is a much-needed conversation, and it's thrilling to see it taking place in mainstream publications, on an international scale.

Here are some recent highlights from my reading. Content note: sexual assault and consent violations.

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