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Perv Queerotic Film Festival; or, the hazards of borrowing canes in Sydney

Posted at 10:55 on 10 Dec 2015 by Pandora / Blake

On my first visit to Sydney I accidentally rented accommodation in one of the fanciest parts of town. I hadn't realised how expensive the area was until I started telling Sydneysiders where I was staying, and they would raise eyebrows at me as if I had said something snobbish. It wasn't deliberate - I just had Headmistress bookings on the Saturday, and I had booked somewhere that looked the part; old wooden furniture and art on the walls. I enjoyed staying there, even if it was a bit of a mission to get back to after midnight, when the Perv screenings and parties were over. It was fun pretending to be someone else for a while - someone with lots of money and an immaculately decorated home.

Sydney gave me a warm welcome. Once I'd recovered from the stress of my cancelled flight and missing the Perv short film competition, I was immediately cushioned in the hospitable bosom of the Sydney kink scene. Penelope Dreadful met me at the station after my first booking and took me out for delicious Vietnamese food (which rapidly became a fixture of my Sydney experience). We'd chatted on Facebook after she offered to lend me a cane (I couldn't fit one in my luggage); I didn't need to take her up on it, but it was a pleasure to meet her. We talked and laughed over pho, and swapped stories of working as a BDSM provider in different cities. I love that sex work gives me the opportunity to meet so many wonderful people - and sex workers are the best people. I feel like sex workers are like this global family, and I have the potential for a community of likeminded humans wherever I go. It's pretty amazing.

I enjoyed the Perv film screenings on Friday night - particularly Airport by Manuela Kay, a dyke classic - in fact it was the first ever German lesbian porno, a funny and sexy all-girl gangbang set in the public bathrooms of an airport. The film quality is like a bad rip of a VHS tape, but the performances and the editing are so on point that it doesn't matter in the slightest. Shutter by Goodyn Green is a present-day snapshot of the lesbian scene in Berlin, a diverse collection of queer sex beautifully shot in radiant natural light.

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Tags: Antonio da Silva, Artemisia de Vine, Australia, cane, ecosexual, Electra Amore, film festivals, flogging, gay porn, lesbian porn, Manuela Kay, Penny Dreadful, Perv Queerotic Film Festival, photos, play parties, punch play, sessions, Sydney, tears

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Spanked to tears (part 2)

Posted at 20:06 on 10 Oct 2013 by Pandora / Blake

I wrote yesterday about a couple of recent scenes with D that brought me to tears. Tears during spanking are both often sought after and misunderstood. Some people seem to build them up as a sort of ultimate signifier of severity. You know: if you don't cry, it wasn't hard enough; if you cry it must have been really bad. But as my experiences with D show, tears can be triggered by the lightest of spankings. It can be simply about your emotional state going into a scene, the trust between you and your spanking partner, a feeling of helplessness or vulnerability.

I sometimes receive emails from submissive clients asking if I can make them cry in a scene. This request is usually framed as being about "pushing their limits", but tears and limits are by no means synonymous. Actually, pushing my limits is generally an empowering experience for me, a challenge of my strength, and rarely associated with the fragile, vulnerable headspace in which I'm likely to cry.

Crying during spanking is, I think, fundamentally about letting go. If you are trying to control yourself, your reactions, or the scene itself, you're unlikely to cry.

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Tags: dominance and submission, Dreams of Spanking, featured photos, kink, Performers and producers, Photos, Sites and studios, tears, Thomas Cameron

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Spanked to tears (part 1)

Posted at 19:11 on 9 Oct 2013 by Pandora / Blake

Last weekend was another working weekend. It wasn't without its highlights; for instance, painting Nimue Allen with a pattern of fire and autumn leaves over a shared bottle of wine, before taking nude photos of her resplendent with flames (for her site Nimue's World) was a pretty good example of ways in which working in porn can be ridiculously awesome.

Nimue Allen photographed by Pandora Blake

After that fun interlude on Friday night I needed to spend Saturday and Sunday editing video for Dreams of Spanking. Inbetween I visited D's place on Saturday evening to lift weights (he has a rack and bench in his spare room), eat dinner and spend some time together.

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Tags: D, dominance and submission, Dreams of Spanking, hand spanking, kink, Nimue Allen, Nimues World, tears

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First spanking of 2012

Posted at 23:23 on 9 Jan 2012 by Pandora / Blake

This weekend was Paul and Lucy's housewarming party, an epic gathering of kinksters which quickly accounted for my second, third and fourth spankings of 2012. But the first was on Friday night, at home with D.

Before new year we'd indulged our dressing-up hobby and gone halves on a gothic lolita "geisha girl" outfit a friend was selling. This was the first chance I'd had to try it on. It involved rather more fabric than is usual in sexy costumes - the sleeves alone could easily serve as a small tent - but it was nicely fitted on the bodice and short in the skirt. I particularly enjoyed being laced into the sash/waist-cincher, complete with large bow in the small of the back. The result was pleasantly snug, and made me aware of the contours of my body without revealing them.

Unfortunately, I realised the limitations of my new outfit when D instructed me to bend over the foot of the bed. I leaned forward to place my palms on the mattress - and instantly the fabric constricted around my underarms, painfully tight. We hadn't seen much of each other all week and I was feeling a little unsure of myself. Suddenly my self-consciousness bloomed into doubt and insecurity. Was this going to work?

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Tags: D, dominance and submission, kink, strap, tears

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Audio Q&A: fantasies, crying and polyamory

Posted at 00:51 on 4 Jan 2012 by Pandora / Blake

Tonight I want to try something new: an audio post, inspired by the recent posts of Quai Disciplines (his first audio post answering reader questions, and more recently his "Friday Quai-day" post, which promises to become a series). I really liked the intimacy of this format and decided to take him up on the invitation to answer some of the questions myself, including ones I'd asked him. I decided to do so in audio so as to continue the feeling of a dialogue.

Pandora audio Q & A, Jan 2012 »

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Tags: audio stories, birch, D, Fantasies, Jacq, kink, polyamory, tears, Thomas Cameron

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