Thankyou, I'm glad you enjoyed it! Ah - those heady days when we were so starved for kink that we would quite literally take whatever we could get. I'm glad that you managed to figure it out for yourself! I think it's quite common for people to forget that consensual, negotiated roleplay is possible. If you fantasise about horrible non-consensual things, then obviously you wouldn't like being grabbed and beaten by someone you didn't know or like, so clearly you should keep your fantasies in the realm of imagination. I think the idea of sexual roleplay is a bit more mainstream these days - it's certainly the context in which you most often see kink on TV, usually played for laughs. But I don't see that cultural recognition trickling through to sex/science journalism enough yet.