If it weren't a struggle, that would be the worrying thing. And recognising mistakes is the only way to ensure they aren't repeated, so being able to say it to others is positive in that regard. I believe these are things we each have to work out for ourselves, although having stories out there of failure and recovery can help. So take your time, find the words if you think it's important, or just find the right space and make things the best they can be between you and Molly. Whatever it is that makes the most positive come out of this for the people involved. Wishing you (plural) all the best. PS also apologies for late arrival, I've been missing reading this blog for a while.