This is a brave post. However, the tragedy of only coming to self acceptance and fulfilment decades after the first flush of youth is probably standard for the human condition. I am not convinced that pornography itself would have helped someone trapped in this way to find a loving kinky relationship sooner. What I do believe is that a sexually open, free, communicative, accepting, queer friendly, supportive, consensual and non-exploitive society would enable people to find partners sooner, be happier and stay together longer (if that is their desire, which is my understanding of this post). I signed the petition because this ban is the canary in the coal mine, the marker for a swing to a more repressive society, including but not limited to targeting a kink that affects me directly. My premise is that consenting sex in all its variety is normal and a state that bans random bits of consensual sex creates for itself a means of repression through shaming. This post and my response helps me realises why I like Dreams of Spanking. It is not as simple as it being titilating. There's buckets of porn out there that I cannot be bothered with. I think it's because Pandora and others create something with the feel of a sex friendly soap opera. I find I like these people. They seem to live in a fairy tale land and it's nice to follow them there on occasion.